Subdivision Kids- Perspective Check

So I started to write this somewhere else but realized I needed more seasoned ears, and more room to get this all out.My children are 5 and 3, I am currently Pregnant with my 3rd. I want to ensure that I am not going way hormonal before I scream "get off my lawn" like my 100 year old creepy next door neighbor. We live in a lower-middle class neighborhood, We live here because frankly, its cheap. We are saving to buy a permanent home and this allows us to save a considerable amount of money (we sold our house in New England to move to the South East, we weren't sure if we were staying) so obviously we went "low" in our housing budget, and our kids are not spoiled, but they earn a few bucks a day doing chores for my husband and I and have (comparatively) nicer stuff and more of it than the kids who live closest to us (and who are featured in this perspective checking adventure) I grew up dirt floor poor (Or "what do we buy this winter, food or heat" poor), my husband had everything he needed and on a farm- when things were good he got cool stuff that my parents could never dream of affording. So I can recognize some behaviors in these kids that I exhibited myself with peers whose parents could afford cool toys and the like. I'm not trying to brag, but this is relevant because I'm not mad at these kids for enjoying my kids stuff. We do strive to not just give our kids everything they want, they have received some expensive gifts from grandparents but they are required to keep them well- or pay for repairs themselves. We buy toys at birthdays and Christmas, everyone else spoils them throughout the year- or they buy their own. But my kids by all appearances, have a lot of stuff.When we first moved here this little girl (who is 6 months younger than my son) and her cousin (who is about the same age as my youngest) wandered into our yard and jumped into the blow up pool we had set up for our kids. We had no idea who they were, or where they came from and tried to send them home. After about an hour of theatrics they went home, few weeks later I met their mother (who had just had a baby and I've since learned was suffering from really bad PPD) The mom and I get along very well, and text often however I know there are serious parenting differences. I know what I know about their financial situation from talking with her and observations (Not judgement! Seriously, I grew up worse than this and I know they are doing their best) and I know they are able to provide for their kids and not much more.Our kids often play together, mostly at my house because I like my kids where I can see them. This summer they have all taken to riding their bikes in the circle (which is safe, 2/5 of us have kids, 2 are an old couple and 1 is a young married couple- all very kind people to me) but then this summer they (from observation led by the big kids) have begun taking the pedal tractor over to the girls house, then our bikes, then the power wheels 4-wheeler than my sons broke- pushing it up a big-ass hill and then back down theirs. When my kids are riding bikes, even though these girls have their own they will grab our tricycles and such and ride them, not their own property. They have broken the firetruck we got my son (power wheels) by all of them (The 5 year old and her two older sisters, probably 2nd and 5th grade age) piling on them- we have fixed the motors twice through warranty. They have come over and played with our kids bikes and scooters without us home, they have taken our sons big tonka truck, they have encouraged my son to dig in places he should not (I lurk around the corner and hear them say "lets dig here" a spot I have told my kids and them NOT to dig on), dumped all the sand out of my youngest sand box, and on and on and on. MOST of the time they are good and not a pain in the ass.. so I chalked it up to normalish kid stuff given the lot in life drawn because to be frank, I was that kid. They also constantly ask us to buy them ice cream from the ice cream truck (they saw us get our kids some one day) and they have recently started asking my son to bring food outside for them to "sell" (among other things)And that last part is where I really finally got mad. Shit happens, I'm lucky if a excavator lasts my sons 6 months, they take everything apart and we have to hide screwdrivers and hammers to keep them from dissecting things. Broken toys don't bother me... but then, the middle girl (2ndish grade) came over with another neighborhood girl and asked if DS1 could get his piggy bank so he could buy some water balloons- these particular balloons were ones that my son brought over to their house- so they were telling me, he needed to get money to buy back his balloons. They weren't pretending either (when i told them he could give them fake money, they were like "No, we want real money"). Then the other day they were trying to get him to bring his piggy bank out to buy something else (I am usually keeping tabs on the kids, but try to let the boys be creative outside) then today they were trying to get my son to bring out food from the house so they could sell it at the stand (and bring out his piggy bank) etc.Most of this happens when the older two are out- I'm sure those girls just want some spending money- I get it. They are in a single income family, they are a 6 person household living in a 3 bedroom house (whom my son has reported they have no doors or holes in the wall? I don't know fact from fiction- but the inside is messy because every time I make my kid clean his room "But the neighbors hoooouuuussseeee!!!!") The younger one just keeps annoying me by knocking on my door at nap time (today, 4 god awful times, first time I told her the kids were napping so she knew to GTFO but every hour- thus fucking up a pregnant woman nap) I've cut off any food going out of my house because Popsicle wrappers keep getting littered all over my lawn, and she doesn't like the snacks I provide for my kids (Fruts and veggies, my kids are happy to share, she takes a bite and throws it on the ground) The younger one antagonizes my dogs to play (they are puppies) and when they do she cries because they "attacked her" (her mom and I have been working on this with her but its come down to me telling her to stay out of their space- by attacking I mean the big dog just bumps into her knocking her over and licks her, the other one is a Chi/Terrier mix and just licks the every loving snot out of her. Oldest pup will be a year in September) I've caught her taking swings at my dogs before etc.Yesterday my son had a shovel and he and the younger girl were playing and she took it from him, he came inside crying, I told him to go ask for it back (husband tailed him) and the girl told him to "go away" and get off her lawn- all the girls then mean girled it inside. I texted the mom, no reply. They came back out about a half hour later I told the girl who refused to give up the shovel to go get it. Then I told all three of them point blank- The toys for my house, do not leave my yard any longer. To which the oldest got an attitude of "Well your son brings them over" I told her I dont care, all of them participate in bringing them over and I have informed my sons that our stuff no longer leaves our yard. She got huffy and told the youngest to get the shovel. This is not the first time these girls have hid one of our toys at their house, and while it never bugged me that shit ended up over there, its that my son cant get them to give it back- THAT bothers me. Then after watching my son ask nicely and return empty handed I have to step in! (Seriously, trying to teach the kid to take responsibility for his own actions and I'm having to hover-mom!)Anyway- All of this has led to today, where these girls flagged down the ice cream truck and asked my son to go inside and get money. I was fucking livid. I didnt let my son go back out, eventually they got their mom who paid for it- but are you fucking kidding meeeeeeeee. My husband was over this when they kept trying to monopolize my sons truck, but now my "good christian spirit" is about to lead to me telling these girls they cant play with my kids. My son will not be going to school with their youngest this fall (we got school choice, the school they go to is meh, choice school is woot- between the scores and my interactions with these kids, I wanted him to have that space) and Monday-Thursday this week my kids will be with me in Bum-fuck farm land with MIL, then a day at our caregivers so H and I can do some doctors appointments, then my mom will be down till school starts. So realistically I have 4-5 days to avoid the fuck out of these kids and hope my son makes more friends in Kindergarten.I know this is a lot, part of the reason we began saving even more is we realized we are NOT cut out of subdivision life, land is going to cost more money- but also will take us a bit more time to save up. I dont want to stop giving my kids a life that I never had on account of these kids but right now I'm ready to sell every fucking high value toy to get these girls to GTFO. I've talked with my son about how real friends dont ask for money like that (and if they get mad at him because he didnt give them money they are poor friends) and have praised his giving and genuine spirit- because he is truly a good at heart kid who is surrounded by vultures apparently.Forgot to add- we Rent about an acre- no fence, nor can we put one up.TLDR: Neighborhood kids keep migrating my children's toys to their house, they are also trying to get my kids to supply capitalist endeavors through goods or his piggy bank. Am I a cranky old hormonal woman, or am I legit ok to go a bit nuts on these kids?How would you handle this? I'm sure there is more dumb crap I'm forgetting but if not for the money savings (and we are rent locked on a fantastic rate right now, so even moving across the neighborhood would increase our rent by 25%) I'd just move away sooner than later. We are about a year out from buying. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2tZpKmv