Husband doesn't care to do date night. We've been out alone together only once in the past year, and it was for an hour at a wedding reception where we were surrounded by his family. Then my mom (who hates babysitting) texted saying the baby was ready for me.We have very few people we trust to sit for us. I don't know anyone who babysits professionally, and even if I did, I wouldn't be able to convince husband to pay for it.Not only does he not want a babysitter but he also doesn't care to take me anywhere or do anything new. We never take the kids out to eat, so our idea of a date is to get ice cream with the kids or get take-out.We are both introverts, so while we do have people over sometimes, usually we don't do much on the weekends other than visit siblings. Husband works 6 days a week while I am home with the kids. That gives us limited time to be alone too.I feel like I'm losing myself. I used to be an adventurous and spontaneous person; I loved traveling and exploring towns around my state, or checking out hole-in-the-wall restaurants, or just taking my kayak down the river. I also loved painting. I don't do any of these things anymore. I feel like the only light left inside of me is my kids.My question is, do you and your spouse do date nights? Are my husband and I really the only people who don't? Is it normal to feel somewhat apathetic about marriage in these young-kids-years? He said our marriage is boring, but as soon as I suggest going somewhere new, he rolls his eyes and gets disgusted.Not only that but every time that I ask for a break, for example today I went for a walk and then took a shower, all together he watched the kids for a little over an hour and he ended up screaming at our 8 month old over spilled baby food. Last week I went to Target while he watched them and I was gone for only 40 minutes when he started texting saying I needed to come home because baby was crying.I'm at my wit's end and having dismal feelings about the outlook of my marriage. Sorry about the length of this. There are just so many factors at play. He and I are both exhausted and somewhat depressed. Please advise. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2eTK43B
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