Kicking a kid out.

Any parents kick a 19y/o son out and wind up with a decent relationship with him? This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Not sure he’s gonna make it. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2xVPild

Should I report any of this?

I am unenrolling my son from a semi-prestigious charter school. I don’t think there is abuse at the school, but the lack of supervision borders on neglect. Some of the problems we’ve had are:▪️Physical fights that lasted over half an hour (elementary kids)▪️Principal that drove my son in her car without a car seat or my consent▪️Threatening to cut face, followed by actual cutting of hairIn all of these situations I’ve tried to be understanding. What bothers me isn’t so much the actions of the kids, but rather the response (or lack of) from the adults.This school is well rated on every online scoring system, and academically is one of the top scoring in the state. That is why I picked the school. I wish I could warn other parents. Is any of this worth reporting? And if so, to whom? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2zBFezX

6.5yo sneaked screen time in the middle of the night.

Our 6.5yo values screen time above all other play time, so it's typically our go-to to withhold when we need to discipline. We have some pretty strict screen-time rules too--they each get one hour of chosen screen time (between TV/kid-phone) a day as long as any schoolwork/chores/family meals/whatever are finished.So, our oldest lost his screen time yesterday, so he was bummed he got neither TV nor phone time. And last night I plugged in the 'kid-phone' in our office charging station in anticipation of randomly needing it at my work today (needed a phone with a headphone jack for the Square hardware, my iPhone doesn't have a phone jack, this is totally unimportant I realize). This morning, my partner goes to wake up our boys for school and finds...the dead phone under the covers. We found it after they left for school.Essentially, 6.5 yo woke up in the middle of the night, left his room to get the phone, brought it back to his room and played the fully-charged phone until it died. This morning he was noticeably tired/irritable/pouty and we didn't think anything of it until we found the phone and realized he got little sleep last night.We're pretty irritated (and frankly, secretly kind of amused--come on, kid, hide the evidence better!!) and we're trying to figure out how to teach him about 'sneaking' and 'lying' and accountability. He's furious with us since we took away the phone permanently. Any parents have success/stories about teaching their kids accountability and honesty? Thanks in advance! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2NJNqGR

Would you send your child to school if they got beaten up

in a fight they started with another neighborhood kid? I have mom guilt because I sent DS to school even though he was complaining his eye and head hurt this morning and he really wanted to stay home. His black eye is also very visible but the swelling went down.He got into a fight yesterday which he started by pushing the other kid. He just ended up getting hurt more. DS is 12 with ADHD and I think I coddle him too much sometimes. Did I do the right thing? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2xHcrs3

C'mon, Nickelodeon: put subtitles on your DVDs

Like most parents, I let my kids watch TV for part of their day. There are a few shows they're particularly fond of, that also happen to be educational, so I've bought a few DVD collections. Stuff like Paw Patrol and Blaze and the Monster Machines.And without exception, the shows made by Nickelodeon lack subtitles. I know they have the info, as the over-the-air versions (on their cable network) have closed captioning.Neither of my kids has a hearing problem, but I know seeing shows with subtitles has helped my son learn to read. But I thought captioning was mandatory. Is it? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2OkqsWe

6 Year Old Lied to Me

My girls are both great kids at school— none of their teachers have ever had any problems with them, and I’ve gotten compliments on them since they’ve been in school.My first grader’s teacher uses a cube system for behavior. They start with 3 cubes and lose a cube if they get in trouble, and then they write the number of cubes they have at the end of the day on a sheet that parents have to sign every day.Yesterday, my daughter got in the car and immediately said that she accidentally wrote a “2” on her sheet instead of a 3. I just told her okay and initialed it. Thought nothing of it.This morning, I had a meeting with her teacher. It was a normal meeting about the fall progress and everything. She asked me if my daughter told me about her friends getting her into trouble yesterday. I told her no, and she told me that they all lost a cube for dancing/being silly in the bathroom after being asked to finish up and get out.So now I’m not sure what to do. We have a tally system at home (similar to the cubes, but we start the week with ten) and I know I’ll have her erase 2 tallies, but other than that I’m not sure. WWYD?TL;DR— Daughter, otherwise great kid, lied about getting in trouble at school yesterday. She doesn’t yet know that I know she lied. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2NLio1v

How to handle friend's unhealthy home life

My teenage daughter's close friend frequently has to lock herself and her younger siblings in her room to protect them against her father.Her younger brother, also a teen, is autistic and struggling with his meds so he often struggles with controlling his behavior. When this happens, she says the boy and father attack each other, with the father chasing him around the house until she locks them all in her room.I asked what happened if he caught her brother and she just got quiet. I asked if her father had hurt him before and she kind of, "uh, um, well.." I reminded her that, as hard as it would be, she can always call the police when it happened.The mother is aware of it all, to my knowledge, but isn't home when these things happen. If she was home, the father wouldn't be engaging with the son.I know autistic kids who are struggling to control themselves can be violent, but if she's protecting him in her room she's obviously not too afraid of him, so I have a hard time justifying any behavior like this on her father's part.At what point do you raise concerns with CPS in a situation like this? I don't know that they are being physically abused, although something was thrown at the boy during the last big fight.The family seems great from the outside and socializes with teachers and medical professionals frequently. If the daughter, who I trust, hadn't told my daughter this, and later me, I wouldn't have had a clue. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2OPYoai