The egg..

Everyday I wake up with a goal in mind. And almost everyday I wake up telling myself to boil an egg Incase I get hungry. That egg has yet to get boiled... I get so lost cleaning taking care of my 6 month old that at the end of the day I still wish I would have boiled that egg.... just a little funny story I know it happened to a lot of parents via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2T4T7QQ

Owe daycare a lot of money and can’t afford to pay

So Im in a pretty bad situation, Im a single mom (28f) and owe my daycare a large amount of money, over $1100. She watches my two year daughter 3-4 days a week. I work full time, have a almost 2 hour commute and make minimum wage. Im already drowning in bills and can’t afford to keep pay for child care. My ex husband(baby’s daddy) is also too broke to pay me any child support. I’m trying to find a second job but my availability is so limited it’s hard. What can I do to help pay for this, I can’t keep up and I’m not sure what to do. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2VqGr8t

6yr old asking for siblings

How can I tell my 6yr old he might not have a sibling. He sees all his friends with siblings and tonight was bad. He left a school thing and saw all his friends walking out holding hands with siblings and cane home crying asking for one. We have tried for years and have at least 2 miscarriages recently. I feel lately like I'm slipping into a dark hole, all our friends are having second children, and someone at my job is pregnant and I just feel my heart shredding everytime. I've tended to stay away from gathering lately because it is just so hard with everyone asking when we are going to have another child. I dont know how to say we have tried or what to say to get them to understand. Now my sweet boy is coming home crying about this and it destroys me. Any advice will be helpful. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Vt5YOh

Daughter sexually assaulted on school trip. Boy suspended, returns to school tomorrow. This dad trying to do the right thing. (Tldr)

Father of four, oldest is 16. She's very petite. A few weeks ago she was telling me that she was interviewing for a leadership position at school. She planned to tell the teacher that her chief competitor wasn't fit, as he "did things to girls, even me."My heart dropped.What?!I learned on a bus trip for the team, he moved to her seat one evening, and cuddled up to her. She asked him to stop, but he drew closer, put arms around her, and after further protests, forced himself on her, kissing her. It took a few friends to pull him off.This happened a MONTH before she told me (her mom didn't know yet either).She was concerned about telling the teacher, as she didn't want to cause drama. What!?We had a long talk about consent, victimization, and power. The aggressor had done similar things to other girls.I encouraged her to not tell the team teacher (a male) in the leadership interview, but instead to find a female teacher she trusted, and start there. If she had been assaulted, that was a separate issue than leadership.I wanted so much to swoop in and lead the charge against this boy. But I also knew this was a moment for my daughter to find her own self power. So, I encouraged action, advised about the blowback and consequences (NOT her fault, but HIS).She talked to the teacher. Who told the counselor. A string of girls came forward with their own stories, one apparently had been all but raped by him (clothes on, but inappropriate touching of the most intimate parts).The school called my wife (good) and suspended the boy for 10 days. A light punishment, but a clear signal that behavior is not acceptable. No one wants to destroy his life. He's young too. Doesn't excuse anything, but hopefully he learned that he cannot victimize women and see no consequence. It's complicated, isn't it?Tomorrow he returns to school, and the social anxiety begins. I hate my daughter has had to experience this, but I am proud that she decided to act, and she has seen that she has advocates and allies beyond mom and dad. The world, by and large, doesn't tolerate this behavior any more.I hope I have done well here. So hard to balance being an overprotective dad with being a supporter who empowers her to act with her own agency. I could make a scene and probably have him arrested - and make her social life even harder.... or let her moderate her own path forward in a measured way, minimizing social blowback.She is a smart smart young woman (number 1 in the class),she has a black belt, and leads well in all she does. I am sure she feels supported by me (and my wife). But geeze.... what do you do?It's been an interesting journey for me. I've had to get comfortable with the phrase sexual assault. There was a time that felt too strong to describe forced kissing. But I'm better with that now. This was well beyond harassment. He violated her body, her agency. Imagine your first kiss being that?No advice sought. Just here to tell the story and get it off my chest. It's been hard for the three weeks I've known about it. I fear tomorrow will start a whole new thing, facing the aggressor again. I hope I can be the dad she needs me to be, every day, through this. She is my heart, removed from my own body and walking about in hers.TLDR: 16yo daughter forcibly kissed on school trip. She downplayed it, but I encouraged action. She spoke up to a teacher, boy suspended. He returns tomorrow. Queue unknown drama coming soon. Loving dad doing his best to be what she needs through it all. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/39bBkgo

"You're the reason for cancel culture!" Yelled the old guy who almost ran into my baby

My wife and I are walking our 14 month old to daycare like we do most mornings, I've got the kiddo in the carrier on my chest. We're almost at an intersection on our quiet residential street when I see a big black SUV coming towards the stop sign so we stop and wait for it to come to a complete stop. It stops 5 feet short of the stop sign, 'awesome, how rare' I think and we start walking through the crosswalk.As soon as we get two feet into the crosswalk he starts moving forward towards us, passing by behind us with only about a foot to spare as we cross the intersection. (Btw: This. Happens. Constantly.)I yell at the guy, something like "Hey, maybe wait for us to cross?!" (not even swearing cause I am wearing my baby) and he stops in the middle of the intersection.He winds down his window and he's some white bearded guy in his early 60s and he starts yelling back at me: "I stopped well short of the intersection!"Me: "Yes, then continued forward while we were still walking through it."Him: "I absolutely did not!"Me: "You accelerated as soon as we stepped foot in the crosswalk. What, you couldn't wait 10 seconds for a baby to move out of the way of your 4,000lb SUV? Was that five seconds too precious for you?"Him: "You're the reason for cancel culture!" Drives offI've had lots of arguments with terrible drivers in this city, but this is the first time I've been accused of being responsible for cancel culture.My wife and I were more confused than angry about the whole thing, and I was way more upset when a minute later I realized I missed the perfect opportunity to just calmly call back: "Ok, Boomer." via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2PtuIC3

Taking unpaid time off to share the load - good idea/bad idea?

Hi new to reddit and looking for a bit of advice. Hope this is in the right place. English is my first and only language so if there are mistakes feel free to rinse me for it.I’m about to become a dad in June, which feels weird to type out. My girlfriend and I didn’t exactly plan this but, after a lot of tears (mostly mine), we’re thrilled about having a family together. At the first scan last year we found out we were expecting twins so, for those of you counting, we’re having two more babies than we thought 6 months ago we’d be having and 100% more babies than we originally anticipated.I talked about this with my manager at work, basically giving her the heads up that I would be putting in for paternity leave. She told me that I have the opportunity to take up to three months of unpaid leave from work on top of the 2 weeks semi-paid paternity leave that we get now. This got me thinking - I have a pretty sick motorbike that is just gathering dust in the garage that's worth just over 2 months wages, so I figure I could sell it and then we can live off the proceeds the two months before I have to go back to work. The bike is basically a toy, I lease a Focus that I use for actual transport, so it won’t be missed (OK, I’ll miss it a bit, it’s matt black and makes really loud noises). My girlfriend will have statutory maternity and is planning to use all 52 weeks before returning to work.I’m not doubting my girlfriends ability to look after two babies, but if we can afford for me to be at home for the first two months then we can both share the load, plus I can bond with the babies at the same time as she does. My girlfriend doesn’t think this is a good idea, she’s convinced that she’s got this and thinks that the other women in her antenatal classes will think she’s a wimp for needing help (it sounds like a lot of them are doing this solo from what I’ve heard). On top of this, my mum gave me some old-fashioned shite about it being the woman’s job to look after babies and the mans job to work, which is total bollocks. Basically everyone is telling me that the money would be better spent on setting up savings accounts for the babies.The bike is definitely going either way, but am I wasting money by taking time off work? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/384GIAK

After you have the baby

I find it sad how, when you announce you're pregnant everyone is so excited saying congrats etc. You have the baby and people say their congrats , come see the baby once, maybe bring a meal...and then...nothing. like I get people are busy with their own lives etc...but having a baby is one of the most difficult times of a mother's life...sleep deprivation, loneliness, ppd, ppa etc.. I just wish more people had asked how I'm doing, how's baby doing. It's like everyone forgets about you , and it shouldn't be like that. Mother's need support, someone to talk to, vent to, share with, it shouldn't be so isolating and lonely. It just makes me sad. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/384W2x5