Thoughts about Roblox/YouTube?...

Is it just me, or is there an entire generation of kids that are getting their brains scrambled with this garbage?There is a sea of disturbingly weird shit on that platform as well as the corresponding/related YouTubers and their videos. Stuff that just doesn't make any sense whatsoever, or worse... I honestly wonder if these kids are sociopaths. The difference in my son's behavior after watching/playing for even an hour or so is very noticeable and I'm starting to suspect that these 'kids' - and in many cases I'm talking teenagers who act much younger than their age - are creating virtual garbage that is having some serious subliminal impact.I'd like to hear others' opinions on these (or other) platforms... Please don't flame me about 'parenting,' because that's exactly what I'm trying to do here.Thanks! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2lEVJDv

15 year old daughter is pregnant.

Hi all. My daughter, Victoria, was feeling unwell recently. Her mum and me were concerned but didn't think it went beyond a stomach bug and nausea. She told us that she missed her period. We were obviously very worried at that point. We know that she has a boyfriend, Scott, and we stay out of what happens between them. When she told us this I rushed to get her a pregnancy test, which she took.The result was positive and she burst into tears when she saw it. We took more tests to be certain and all came back positive. She's absolutely terrified at the moment and isn't sure whether she wants to keep the child, and we've said we'll support her whatever she does.The one issue we have is how this will affect her schooling. She's a smart kid, as in really smart. She's top of her year in five subjects, three of which her exam marks were 100% (not a single question wrong). and hasn't got a single grade in any subject lower than a B. Her mum and me aren't pushy parents at all. Obviously we never wanted her to do badly in school, but we have never been the type to pressure her to get straight As or whatever. Everything she's done has been done of her own ability and to be honest a lot of it is natural talent. She doesn't study or revise often and has been pulled up for not doing homework and coursework, and spends more time out with her friends than at home. If she was failing at school than all of this would be concerning, but we always said that as long as her grades were at least average, we wouldn't stick our noses in, and clearly she's way above average. However, she has one year of school left, and clearly being pregnant and then caring for a baby will take up a lot of her time, and will definitely affect her post-school life. She doesn't have a solid idea of what she wants to do when she leaves school, but has said she would like to study A Levels or maybe do an apprenticeship.We do have a reason for our parenting decisions. Her mum (who she got her brains from) was identified as a ''gifted'' child early on and was given work that was meant for much older children. She could handle it, but the attention and the pressure from her parents messed with her head, and it's something she hasn't forgiven them for (although she does love them). When we had a child of our own she was determined to let her have a ''normal'' childhood, something I agree with.Victoria has never been a ''bad'' kid. She goes to house parties on the weekends, but everyone at her school does, and neither her or her friends are involved with anyone dangerous. There was an issue last year when we found cannabis in her bedroom, but she promised is it wasn't a problem and it was just something she'd tried a few times before, and said she wouldn't do it again if we didn't want her to, and so far she hasn't as far as we're aware. As I said we would never get involved in what happens between her and her boyfriend, but we have made sure she's aware of what is appropriate and what precautions should be taken, so we're astounded she could be so careless.As for Scott, he was obviously the first person he told, but his response was to shout at her and end the call. He then proceeded to block her number. I tried phoning him but as soon as he heard my voice he hung up. I've never particularly liked the guy but I've always been civil with him, but I'm very annoyed with his behaviour at the moment.Victoria didn't go to school the past two days and all she's done is cry. She's panicking about what she's going to tell her friends and the school, and she thinks that her life is ruined.Need some advice about how to go about this, especially if Scott does not want to be involved, as to whether to abort or keep the child. Should we allow her to consider all options or should we try to sway her in a particular direction? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2tyYTwW

I think I’ve spoiled my daughter rotten

My daughter is 11 (will be 12 in a few months) and I need help with her. I think she is becoming a not very good person. I have difficulty understanding what makes her happy and how to get her motivated to be better. I do talk to her and hear what she says but it’s like my solutions never work.The first issue is she’s not looking forward to summer holidays. (Really makes me sad that she’s not ecstatic to be off). She doesn’t like to be home alone and she gets board easily. I do work full time but I am taking about 8 days off here and there. We are going camping a few times, her grandma is taking a week off to have all grand kids over. I think throughout the whole summer she and her older brother will be home for 10 days alone. So I am trying to think of things she could do that will get her out of her room. So far I have suggested swimming lessons, do babysitting jobs as she has completed her babysitting course, go to my brothers farm for a few days, craft course, but she says she’s not interested in any of those.It’s never enough. It’s like she is always searching for what she wants next. So right now she isn’t getting anything so she’s in grumpy mood. She mopes around, she’s rude, talks back, doesn’t do her chores. For example 2 weeks ago she wanted these shoes and she was sad sad sad and when she knew she was going to get them she perked up and turned her persona completely around, she got the shoes and was good for a few days and now she’s back.We got her 2 kittens. We haven’t had a pet in awhile and my husband and I wanted them but also thought this could be something she would be responsible for and love. (It’s been a tough few years for her as her dad dragged us through a custody battle and he lost (due to his lack of involvement for the last 10 years) and he has now completely abandoned both her and her brother, it’s been about 10 months since any contact. So in saying all that, a lot of what I do is out of guilt for what their dad did.). The deal was is if we got the kittens she would be responsible to feed them and scoop out the litter once a day. Well big shocker, she’s not doing it. And when she does she leaves the wet food out, there is cat food all over the counter, she forgets to do the litter. Which leads into my next issue...She isn’t responsible, in anyway. She will wear dirty clothes if I let her, her room is disgusting, like garbage under her bed, her room is always trashed, she showers and throws her towel on the floor, leaves her lunch kit in her backpack and will sit there over the weekend, drops her jacket at the door. And I’m constantly nagging at her. We’ve tried chore lists, allowances, taking things away but all it ends up being is me nagging and following her around.She won’t help anyone unless it benefits her. For example, her little brother is 2 and we threw his soother on the ground, it landed right beside her foot, she wouldn’t grab it. He was crying and fussing and I had to ask her to pick it up and give it to him. Her older brother asked her to pass the remote, and i watched her reaction and I could see it literally pained her to pass it to him.On the other hand. She’s very smart, very witty, she’s beautiful, she’s very creative and thoughtful. She does well in school. She can be very good with her little brother. She has a great relationship with her step dad. I love her, she’s my only daughter but day to day I feel angry with her, disappointment, I worry about her as she is ruining relationships with friends. I don’t think she’s happy and I think if she was this would all turn around. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Ku95wU

Issue with Grandma over feeding

My mom helps take care of my 3yo several days per week. She is wonderful with her and a great help, but food has always been a contentious issue for us. My daughter is a terrible eater. Not picky, she just eats very little. Shell maybe eat one full meal per day and eats a few spoonfulls of other meals. Neither I nor the pediatrician is concerned since she is very healthy, but my mom thinks if she doesn't intervene my daughter will become malutritioned and get sick. So she spoonfeeds... every meal. Without my mom forcing food down her throat my daughter would probably not get most of the fruits and vegetables that she eats, but it's so frustrating to watch. I've tried asking my mom directly to stop but she believes she's all that stands between my child and malnutrition, so she can't bring herself to do that. What is a diplomatic way to address this with her? I really want to teach my daughter self-sufficiency and about consequences, but should I just let it go? Also how do you get your kids to eat??? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2IufLcF

Blasted by inlaws on holiday for rinsing our toddlers peed pants in the sink

So I’ve been with my partner for 6 years and we have a 3 year old. We went on holiday for a few days with his parents. I’ve never seen them yell at any of their 4 kids before, not even once. At the place we were staying there was a main bathroom and a small bathroom in the hallway. My daughter didn’t make it to the toilet in time and peed herself in the hallway next to smaller bathroom. So I went to grab a cloth and wiped it up and placed her underwear and pants in the sink of the hallway bathroom to rinse. By the time I got back his parents came in and his dad asked who left them there and I said I was just rinsing them and he blasted “why don’t you use your own bathroom, I wash my bloody face in that sink! Why didn’t you use a bowl or something!” And his mom added “ what if I had my knickers in your sink?! We left you the other bathroom to give you some privacy!!” Meanwhile we had only been there a couple days and I woke up after them every morning and had literally no idea we were using different bathrooms. I explained that and she said “look it’s over now, just THINK next time!!” I was so shocked and upset. I cried all night and barely slept.Also sucks I can’t really say anything back about how they all came into our home when my daughter was still crawling with their winter boots on in the living room on our new light coloured carpet and sat there like it was perfectly normal... then when they took them off they all left them in the living room instead of in the hall by the door like most respectful people would when they take off their shoes. I didn’t say a word however because I didn’t want to cause an issue. I hate that because they are the parents and do so much for us that I can’t even say anything or else their whole family would probably never want to speak to me again.On holiday at least my partner was supportive and told them they really overreacted and made his dad apologise the next day.Any other parents think I was being very rude and that they were right to be so pissed off and blast me? Or were they being OTT? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2tzxMBL

Weekly- Wallet Wednesday- June 27, 2018

This is a weekly thread where you can share pictures of your children and cute, crazy or awful things they have done. Please upload your pictures through Imgur and post the link as a comment. Feel free to share the context of the picture! If you are not a parent yourself, this is the place to ask us anything. Also, if you ever wonder who we are, click here to meet the mod team! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2IxkDOl

Stay at home Mum close to a breakdown

Hello everyoneI’m a stay at home Mum of two children (ages of 4 and 7 months) and I honestly think I am very close to losing my mind completely.My husband works 35 hours a week 8.30am till 4 on weekdays, off on weekends and he has a hands on job as an engineer.The reason I feel like I am losing my mind is because (although I understand my husband works and supports us) I feel like a single mother. The responsibilities of looking after my kids falls to me 24 hours a day. In the 7 months that our son has been here my husband has changed 5 nappies if that. He doesn’t even pick him up or play with him at all. Because our son is breastfed my husband hasn’t had to do a single feed and has therefore opted out of helping me with the baby in the middle of the night as he said it’s pointless (even though he could change the baby, pick up the baby and settle him as he doesn’t need feeding every time)On an average day I look after the kids but I also have a list of jobs my husband expects me to do before he gets home at 4 which take up most of my day. Everyday I’m expected to clean and tidy the house top to bottom. Mopping and hoovering, all the washing up done and put away, all surfaces in the house wiped down and the bathroom cleaned. Laundry done every morning, hung out and put away before he is home. I also do the food shop with no input from him although he complains every week I’ve bought the wrong things. The housework I do every day I feel is what someone would do normally once a week. On top of all this my husband has set places where literally every item we own has a place. The kettle for example has to point towards the microwave, the blinds in the bathroom have to be open a certain amount to let in the correct amount of light he thinks looks best etc.Even my daughters bedroom is expected to be spotless when he comes home (even no toys out etc). If the house isn’t up to his standard I get told off like I’m an employee. He says I’ve not done good enough and that he expects better the next day.This over time has led me to being the most depressed I have ever felt in my life. I have had depression since being a teenager but now I struggle most days to even dress myself. I just make sure my children are dressed and when I finally manage to get myself out of my own thoughts I tackle the housework.When my husband comes home at 4 he will disappear upstairs and get a bath/lie in bed for an hour and he’ll reappear when I have made tea (something I struggle with because the baby always wants feeding when I’m half way through cooking so I’m left with the dilemma of do I feed him and the tea burns or finish tea as quick as I can and leave the baby crying). Once again my husband would never cook tea as he has “been at work all day”. After I have made tea we sit at the table and my husband will eat as quickly as he can and will leave the table within 5 minutes of us all being sat, leaving me to feed the baby his solids and making sure our daughter behaves and eats her tea.I then have to clean the kitchen and wash up all the pots and dishes and put them away, tidy up the livingroom (as the cushions have to be a specific way before my husband is happy to sit down) and then i take my oldest to bed etc and then after that I finally sit down and husband appears to watch tv with me.I’ve tried telling my husband I’m depressed and he seems to either think I’m making it up and I’m just lazy or he believes I’m depressed and tells me to just get on with it, depending on what mood he is in.The hard part is I love my husband, and I appreciate that he goes out to work but it is killing me inside because I’m treated like I’m lazy, like my life is easy, like I have nothing to complain about when my depression makes even a good day the worst day.I also feel guilt because I don’t work, and on occasion my husband will ask me when I am going to get a job but in all honesty I’m so depressed I can’t even think about it.I want to get help from the doctors because I feel like I’m letting my kids down but I’m also scared to incase they think I’m an unfit mother. I’ve tried talking to my family but they all live hundreds of miles in each direction and don’t offer any help. I don’t have any friends anymore because they all disappeared when I had kids. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2N132C1