Saturday, 30 July 2016

10mo sleep problems, only at night..


Hello, new parent here with a new problem with my 10mo daughter that's really starting to get to me and just can't nip it in bud.. since she was born, my girls always slept really well and putting her down was never much of a chore until about 5 weeks ago when bedtime at night has become a long drawn out battle...She just stopped self settling in bed and now will only calm while in someones arms being rocked. Quite literally, she's asleep with thumb in almost before I have her laying in my arms! As soon as I put her down (or even think about) she's wide awake screaming and just wont put the thumb back in.we're not sure what it is. Some nights she acts like she has reflux, other nights seems just over tired, other nights seem like teething. We took her to the hospital out of desparation one night, 3 doctors and 3 hours later they came up with nothing.The other frustration is that she'll immediately sit up if left crying in bed, so controlled crying methods don't seem to work. she's also a tension increaser, so when left to cry she escalates into hysterics with spluttering and choking so I can't see how that will help. We try sitting with her while in bed and pat or rub her chest, sometimes this works but other times we end up fighting her trying to sit up so then she starts waking up..Is this normal? What can we do to help her get off to sleep without building the bad habit of rocking? What can be done about the constant sitting up?This only happens at night, and usually three hours later she's down around 9-10pm. Her daytime naps are normal and she usually sleeps half an hour to an hour. She is cutting in a tooth right now, but this is 5 weeks going on 6 now. When she's finally down she'll stay asleep til 7-8am in the morning, its just getting her down in the first place without hours of rocking... via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2allHHi

Parents of young athletes / prodigies: Do you post about your kid's successes on Facebook?


I do not mean this to be a bragfest and I hope it does not come off that way. My 7 year old is very talented at chess. He competes about once per month at major chess tournaments for kids his age and he generally wins some kind of prize such as a trophy or a medal. My wife and I sometimes post this to our Facebook page where he has received lots of praise from friends and family. He LOVES to see how many people liked his post and I think it is very motivating for him. My wife feels that we are posting too often and friends / family may get bored or feel we are bragging. This week we traveled across the country, where he competed in an important tournament. It was a big battle, but he came from behind and won 1st place. But we did not post about it, so very few people in our circle know about his success. I wonder if we should have or not.The best solution might be to create a page just for him, so relatives could decide to join it or not, but I believe it is against Facebook's terms of service to create a page for young children.So, parents of young champions, do you spread the word about your kid's successes? Or do you only share selected achievements? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2agR706

Friday, 29 July 2016

Son was just born 10 weeks early, what do I do now?


Hi, everyone! I subscribed to this sub 30 weeks ago when my wife and I found out she was pregnant with our first child, and today she gave birth! Despite being so early, he weighed 3 pounds 12 ounces, and is doing very well, so far.My question is: what should I be doing, other than spending as much time with him and my wife as I can? I've heard horror stories about insurance (we're covered), is there anything we need to be looking into? I already spoke with the insurance company and our pump is on the way, bit I know there must be things I'm not thinking of.Any advice is greatly appreciated! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2axUQHv

My sons are misbehaving and my husband undermines me


I wanted to crosspost my post from r/relationships here because I think a parenting perspective might be more helpful.Both of my kids are out of control. I had to pick my younger son (15) up from a house party after he drank so much he was throwing up. When my husband and I tried to change him out of his vomit covered clothes we found marijuana in his pocket. My husband wasn’t concerned because he thinks its normal for all teenagers to drink and try smoking. While I agree that this is common 15 is far too young for this behavior.My younger son tattled on his older brother (18) for using "harder drugs" to divert our attention. It worked because I shifted my focus to my older son and left my husband to handle the younger one. He didn’t disciple him enough because my younger son still comes home smelling like marijuana smoke. My husband maintains its not a very big problem. I’m convinced he told my younger son his opinion because now he thinks his behavior is acceptable.When I went to pick up my older son from his dorm room that he’s staying in for the summer the place was a mess. He kept falling asleep during our conversation because he was probably out parting all night. I made him come home and he’s been sneaking off at all hours of the day despite being grounded. When he’s home he locks himself in his room and sleeps all day or sits around in the backyard smoking cigarettes. He refuses to take a drug test so I don’t know what he’s doing exactly but I’m very worried about him.My husband thinks he’s only acting out because he’s not happy that he’s grounded for the summer. Once again he dismisses my concern and won’t talk to his son seriously. I don’t think either of the kids are taking me seriously because their dad is showing them that’s acceptable.I’m very stressed out about my children. I can’t be home all the time because I manage a company and have to work very long hours. This leaves the disciple up to my husband but he’s not very good at it. I also asked him to keep an eye out on our older son so we can find out whats really going on with him but he doesn’t take that seriously either.tl;dr: My two sons are misbehaving by drinking, and partying, and doing drugs and my husband wont help me discipline them. I'm worried about my sons, especially the older one, and I'm angry and frustrated with my husband. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2axNvYO

Problem with 4yo daughter petting the cats a little too firmly.


Hi all. So my daughter loves animals but she's a bit too rough with them. We've always taught her to be gentle with the cats but lately she's been smacking them when they do something 'wrong'. Any tips or tricks to get her to stop? I've tried the usual things, telling her no, sending her to her room, 'do unto others', and forbidding her from touching the cats. Today one of the cats was asleep in her dresser and she shut him in the drawer (he's a pretty chill cat, he was asleep when I found him - still not good, though). via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2aaTXSS

How do you tell a 4 year old that his baby brother will not be arriving?


NOTE: This post is to ask for assistance. If you are here to judge, please start another post and I can engage there instead.We learned a few weeks ago that our baby boy has a fatal condition. After going through all the tests, reading through all the literature, all the forums for parents-to-be with the same situation, the risks to my wife, and the recommendations of all the medical professionals, we scheduled the termination next week.Has any of you been in this or a similar position? How do you break this news to a 4 year old sweet little girl who is so fond of her younger brother and declared herself lucky because she's gonna have a second baby brother?We were anticipating a happy Christmas season, and now instead we'll be mourning the loss of our third child.One of my favorite memories of the birth of our second child was my daughter holding him for the first time. She was ever so gentle with him, with a smile that just conveyed the happiness and love she felt for the new addition to our family.Every day she demonstrates to us several Big Sister traits that never fail to warm my heart and make me beam with pride. She has been looking forward to another baby, and I know she'll be heartbroken when she learns that the baby is not coming.Part of me is hoping she'll be too young to remember any of this - her mother and I will carry the memory of her third brother all our lives - but knowing her, I know she's not likely to forget.I fear part of her happy glow will fade, her positive disposition will lessen, her optimism at life diminish. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2agm2tC

Update to daycare question - am I being too Nazi? so this happened today


My son is often in a PNP that has tons of toys and mini activity gym in it (at the bottome)... fine...attached to that PNP on top is the napper/changer, which the caregiver uses to change all kids on, above my son.I kind of knew about this, but again, this is new to me, I didn't know if that was a huge deal.Come to today, I visit him at lunch, feed him, then put him down in that PNP. I look above his head on the bottom of the PNP, and what do I see, a chunk of poop. Hard, toddler poop. I point it out and come to find out today while she was changing a toddler, over my baby, the toddler ripped off her diaper and swung it around or whatever, causing some debris to fall down into my baby's area.I really don't know what to think or do. Too much? Move on? Let it slide? This is only our 4th week here. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2aQz9BJ