It’s a real toss up between feeling like a failure and an ungrateful jerk.

We have had an unbelievably rough year, lots of financial and other struggles. A NICU baby, job loss, illness, etc. We have just been completely defeated over and over again.Our older kids aren’t used to a fancy Christmas thankfully, but we weren’t able to get them anything really this year. I was feeling incredibly shitty and low and a local group offered to do our older kids’ Christmas for them. The littles won’t know any different and so I didn’t even include them when I was asked. I filled out their questionnaire and was so relieved and grateful. They said they had Christmas taken care of. We’ve planned all week for them to come today and deliver the gifts. I was so excited.They came about an hour ago and I just feel sick. They sent two shirts and a jacket for my son. None of them will fit him. He is so self conscious about his weight already. One was used, the tag inside is faded. The new items have his name written on the tag in sharpie (spelled wrong). My daughter got a hoodie and leggings and I think the hoodie will fit but the leggings won’t. They also each got a $10 gift card.When they said they had the kids’ Christmas covered, I expected something else. And I feel like a total jackass but I am disappointed and feeling just sick about it.I don’t understand someone giving a kid something obviously worn out and used knowing that’s their only Christmas present.And now I feel like a failure of a parent and also an ungrateful human being because honestly anything is helpful and was thoughtful and I know the thought counts.None of our Christmas traditions have even worked out this year. It’s all a mess.I am dreading the next few days. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2CuAJbM