Guardianship: who to name when family is small and husband is estranged from his/suspicious of friends?

Hi all, I recently saw a financial advisor and he reminded me of the importance of getting wills in place (I just had my first son, he’s almost 9 mos.). Anyway, the issue is who could be his guardian in case something happened to us.The obvious choice in my opinion is my husband’s only sister. She is in her late 30s and is a neurosurgeon who is finally making bank after years of med school. The problem is that my husband quarreled with her a few years back and won’t speak to her anymore unless she apologizes to him, which she has chosen not to do.I am in periodic contact with her and would absolutely want my kid(s) to go to her. She’s smart and capable, though I’m sure she has her issues having come from my husband’s family of origin!There are no other obvious blood relative candidates. I have no brothers and sisters. My parents are in their 70s, I have a dear Aunt but she is in her late 60s and her husband is also too Christian/authoritarian for my taste. My husband is also estranged from his parents and they are also in their late 60s.My husband has a cousin in her 40s that I have never met who he might suggest.My best friend and her husband would be my 2nd choice—just that her husband is a blowhard and possible Trump supporter. I have a few other single friends I would consider, but I think my husband would also have issues with them.This issue, like so many others in my life, is made so complicated by my husband, who has many of the symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder: suspicious of everyone and sees the worst in everyone.How do you deal with/have you dealt with establishing guardianship when there are few relatives or close friends and when the parents might be in disagreement? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2ApFwHf