Having a third kid and looking for guidance

I found out yesterday that I'm going to be a father of a third child, and I'm terrified. Parents of three kids--how was it when you had your third? I'm finding myself distracted and I can't think about anything else. I've been told by friends of mine that two was a cinch but when they had a third, their lives ended. We used to hang out with them and their family before then, but after they had their third kid, they disappeared into a life of nothing but work and taking care of the kids. And so now I'm thinking: 50% more sick days. 50% more kids laundry. 50% more mess to clean up, mouths to feed, time taken for bedtime rituals, etc.Right now, my wife and I can divide and conquer with two, and we even get some free time here and there. I'm afraid of losing that. I want to keep a positive mindset and be happy about this, as this is another person I get the opportunity to bring into the world and raise, and teach to be an awesome person. But the selfish part of me feels like my individuality is on death row. I'd like to hear some experiences going into having a third child, how it went, expectations versus reality. Or, if you have any resources that you could share that will help. I'm not in a great place right now--having trouble sleeping at night, and would love some thoughts or resources that could help me get my head right.Thank you, r/parenting community. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2GozDhz