Support groups/good reads for a dad who hates parenting?

I've thought about posting this for a long time and didn't, and even now as I type these words I'm really uncomfortable because it's kind of a taboo to express these thoughts; some of you might read this and think I'm a terrible parent and you might be right! Nevertheless, they thoughts are there, and I really would like some help or to know where I may find help.I'm a dad of a 2.5 year old girl and I just can't deal with this stage. I can't take the tantrums, the "no"s, the meltdowns, the constant testing of boundaries, the wilful defiance. I feel like I'm constantly having to control myself from blowing up, and I feel like I've been wrestling a bear at the end of the day. I can't understand how parents say "it's all worth it" because how can being cute make up for all of the above?It's gotten to the stage where if you asked me if I could go back in time and not have kids, I would probably say yes. (this sentence really really really hurts to type.) That said, time travel doesn't exist, so I want to be a responsible dad, and I want to give her the best, and I want her to grow up in a good environment where she feels loved by both me and my wife.The thing is, I've seen other kids at that age and I know my girl is an absolute angel compared to them. She doesn't try to hurt us during tantrums, they happen relatively infrequently (once a day on average?), and she spends a good portion of the day able to amuse herself - my wife and I often leave her in the living room by herself and trust that she will read a book instead of burn the house down. So either this stage of parenting really really really doesn't sit well with me or I'm just a terrible parent.When I look at the majority of the posts on this sub, you guys seem like people who would run through walls for your kids, and be happy to do so. I'm not happy about it, but I want to keep running through walls for my daughter and keep as much of my mental health intact. I'm seeking:Support groups for people like me who hate being parents, but want to be responsible and do the right thing for their kids.Articles or books that might be relevant to meAny advice you might haveI know the problem isn't with my daughter, but lies with me and my own biases and possibly unrealistic expectations of toddlers, and I really would like to change my attitude, failing which I want to at least be able to give her my best.Thanks so much. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2GfNwP1