Alone but not?

I just don't know what to do anymore. My spouse [24m] and I [26tm] have been married 5 years and have a 2yr old daughter together. I stay at home with her after losing my normal job when she was 3 months old due to lack of child care. I now work as an on call host at a restaurant that one of my old patients owns (I was a MA previously for 9 years). The whole time I've been out of work I've figured out ways to make a little money to afford a few things. My husband makes 18/hr and works overtime most of the time. He pays our few bills (rent,elect, phones and internet) plus gives me $200 a month for gas and household needs but he's never contributed to any cost having to do with our daughter, I've bought all her clothes and toys and all presents she got for Hanukkah on my measly wages. Other people are kinder to her and I than him. He's trying to put his two cents in parenting wise but its always in a critical or harsh way and going on dated parenting ideals.I don't know how to feel about him trying to parent when I've felt alone all this time even when he's home because 70% of the time he's playing video games or on his phone. He only seems to criticise and dares to say I'm bitching at him when I ask for his help with our toddler when I'm occupied cooking (I cook dinner every night) or doing dishes/cleaning. I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm exhausted, stressed out, in tons of pain from medical issues and always mad when hes around. He only started being a jerk when he started working in the IT field too..We're looking into counselling but he never gets anything done and I have no info to go on regarding schedule and his ins info.Tl:dr husband is acting like a disconnected roommate rather than a spouse and parent unless its to criticize or parent in a harsh/dated or wrong way. I'm at the end of my rope, please help. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2CAIU7f