HISTORY: Ex wife has physical custody of the kids. I pay a hefty sum of CS for 2 boys. I'm retired military so I cover their medical and dental insurance. I also cover half of the medical out of pocket expenses and rec sports, school clothes...blah blah blah...basically I pay above and beyond whats expected. She has sense remarried but this deadbeat has nothing to do with the 3 boys as far as being a father or disciplinarian. I have no idea why she married this guy...I digress....One of the boys is a HUGE problem child, he's 16, goes to an alternative school because he was kicked out of the public school for multiple counts of stealing. He has stole from the local food-store, gas station and broken into multiple business and cars, not until today has anyone ever decided to press charges. Let me also state that when he visits me NONE of this kind of behavior any longer exist at my house because he knows or at least believes that I'll beat him beyond recovery.So...the cops came and got him and have put him in jail. His mother and I talked and have mutually agreed to let him stay there what ever the duration is. I'm 99% certain there will still be some sort of fine or bill to pay, I'm pretty sure if you go to jail your gonna have to pay for something yes? Here is my question, should I agree to pay for half this bill? I don't think legally she can make me and yes, it would be the "nice" thing to do but in my eyes she has kinda reaped what she sew. Why should I pay for her lack of enforcing discipline? Discuss....EDIT: I guess I overstated it, it's not so much of an "I'll beat your ass" than it is if you duck up, your gonna have negative consequences for screwing up. I was a military brat, discipline was taught to me at a very early age, I'm a retired 25yr Army vet, discipline has been my life and that I've passed on to them. I guess I overstated it, it's not so much of an "I'll beat your ass" than it is if you duck up, your gonna have negative consequences. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2uehZHG
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