Hey! Sometime lurker and first time poster.My two children live in a different country. I recently reopened contact with them through their other parent, which comes a lengthy estrangement that was mostly my doing. We use Skype and FaceTime, where we talk and share stories, play games like Minecraft. As often as not I just hang out on the call while they watch television of something.We each missed the other and we all want to reconnect, but I struggle with things to ask and say:First, I have empathic problems which make it tough for me to put myself in their shoes.On top of this they have a tough home life that affects my older child especially. We talk about that occasionally, and I've made clear they can speak to me in confidence, but as a rule I don't push the topic because we're all powerless in the situation. I try to help where I can. They want their escapism.Do any of you deal with this? It's tough at times to connect with them. We have our own history and problems and rely on a (their end) poor Internet connection. Even things like my accent mskes it more difficult to communicate clearly. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2tsvJMX
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