Doctors Reveal Depression And Low Self-Esteem In Children Could Be Caused By Yelling At Them

Sometimes its hard to be a parent, with children running wild and unchecked, no wonder sometimes screaming seems like a good reaction.However, we are finding out new facts that lead us to believe that this may be causing long-term or permanent damage.​Everyone gets angry sometimes. We get it, and it happens to the best of us. Recently, however, the Journal of Child Development published a study, about the affects of yelling. It turns out that yelling can have the same affect as hitting your child.​As a child you may not realize it fully, but those life long effects that lead to depression and anxiety can come from how your parents treat you. So if you have those problems, its not necessarily wrong to blame it on your parents. Just sayin.​Another problem this causes is future behavior. If you have children, then you know they are sponges. They soak up everything they learn and see. Yelling is no exception. According to Positive Outlook, children who get yelled at will yell at others when they are older or at least expect to get yelled at.​The reason that children are scared of their parents is because they are the ones who provide for them. Things such as food, a home, and most importantly love. What happens when the ones that take care of you, are the ones that scare you.​​Yelling is a quick solution that has little to no affect, besides making them think they are in danger. Its like a deer caught in headlights. You are hard wiring your kids brains to thinking they are in real danger just from someone yelling. This will affect their adult life, as you may have noticed if you were yelled at as a child.​​Yelling makes the child want to hide, not listen.​Your best option is to remain calm, figure things out together. See why the child is doing what they are doing. Fix the problem instead of putting a band-aid on it. Try being light about it. Being calm can allow you to not frighten them, and still remain the authority in the house. This will lead to better communication and connecting.Children don't need to be yelled at, but need to know what they have done. Yelling can stop an action in its tracks like a fight or something that could hurt them. If you really want to keep your authority, make sure it is known. Praise them for positive actions, and discipline them for negative ones. Without consequences they will keep doing what they are doing.​Once you have their attention, calmly explain what is going on, this should be easy for parents to learn and adapt to their family.​If you have any questions let me know in the comments below. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2EMYAWx