My mother doesn’t hear when my 9-year old speaks or contributes to the conversation. It’s as though nobody spoke at all and she moves on to another topic. My son looks at me quite confused when it happens.

This is perhaps a more of a rant than anything else... but I’m grateful for anyone who can give me something constructive to manage this.It burns me up that the generation of parents who raised kids in the 70-80’s were generally so shitty as parents. It’s one thing for me to never have been heard or shown respect or affection as a kid... but you can’t do that to my kids.I honestly believe she’s just as self-absorbed as she was when I was a kid and she doesn’t even know she does it. I think she just hears background noise when kids speak and doesn’t think anything a kid has to say is worth listening to.To mitigate, instead, ignore her statement and address my son’s first comment. Then she’ll engage as if nothing happened. Which I’m pretty sure, in her mind, nothing did happen.The relationship I have with my son is such that we have long conversations and everyone is heard and opinions respected. I definitely correct him when needed, but it’s an open dialogue and by no means is he ignored when he speaks. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2kLt2Ec