Coming out to my kids?

I don’t know if this is the right place to post, I’m new to Reddit. I’ve been married for 18 years, and was married for a year before my current relationship. I have two daughters, one by by ex (27) and another by my current husband (15). My husband and I loved each other in the beginning. I never felt anything but perfectly straight. I loved my husband, loved my kids- there was nothing “wrong.”My first crush on a woman was right after my second daughter was born. I was a SAHM, and we’d just moved states. I didn’t have a lot of friends, and bonded closely with a neighbor my same age. She’d gone through a divorce, was childless, and loved to spend time with my baby. We developed a really tight bond. I started to develop a crush on her, but dismissed it as misplaced feelings of friendship. She moved out, and I moved on, but I missed her a lot. My husband even got worried. I ended up crushing on coworkers, waitresses at restaurants we frequented- every time there was another excuse, more denial. It was unfair to all of us, but I couldn’t let myself believe that it was something. My husband and I were in a weird place. I didn’t want to cuddle him, I didn’t want him to kiss me. I stopped feeling that love. All I could really feel for him was respect. I started going to therapy about a year ago, and I did a lot of work on those feelings. The conclusion (after a year) was basically that I’m a lesbian. I love women. My husband and I recently decided we’d divorce. We just need to tell our kids. We waited until after the holidays, but now we’re feeling stuck.My daughter is only here a little while more, so I just need to do it. How can I, though? It sucks and it’s hard and it’s hurting me as much as it’s going to hurt them. I feel awful. Any tips? Advice? Anecdotes? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2CZpXci