My[30F] daughters[15F] Father[34M] won't respect my rules, and is teaching our daughter ideals that I feel are harmful.

I was almost 15 when I gave birth to my daughter. Her dad was 19, and already in college. He was really cute, and the older brother of a good friend of mine at the time. We slept together once, I fell for the whole "just the tip" thing and wound up pregnant.Since I came from a religious family, abortion was off the table, and once I had Chloe so was adoption. I ended up getting a GED, and taking care of her alone. Her dad was gone for the 1st 6 years of her life.When he came back, he had a degree, a great job, and he sued for custody. He got partial(weekends and most holidays, and part of the summer, and I got child support.9 years later, my daughter and I hardly speak. She loves her father more than anything, and I am nothing but the buzzkill mom. I am the one who has to say no all the time. He just makes that harder too, because he doesn't respect anything that I say.I tell her that she can't have something, He buys it for her, but keeps it at his place so I can't "take it away". I say she can't go to a concert, he will take her, or let her go, if it falls one one of his days. I say she can't wear something, he buys it and lets her wear whatever she wants on the weekend.It is the same with everything that I say. If he can undermine me he will. I've said that she isn't ready for a car. I just know that he is planning to buy her one for Christmas.Because of this Chloe wants to live with him fulltime. She doesn't know that he doesn't want her to live with him full time. He has said as much to me. He has a life separate from us, and being a fulltime dad would interfere with that.Also what is even more troubling, is that in the last year or so, he has gotten her really into Alex Jones, conspiracy theories, Ben Shapiro, and a few other "Alternate Media" sources. She believes what they say, and has started following thier ideals. Its homophobic, and transphobic, and racist.I have tried to teach her to respect people. Lately She's taken to calling people snowflakes, and talking about how bad "identity politics" and "pc" culture is. I fear that he is turning our little girl into a bad person.If she won't listen to me when I try and tell her to respect people, and how words can actually hurt people, no matter if true or not. What do I do?TL;DR my daughters dad is ruining our kid. I don't know how to stop it, and reverse the damage. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2y1zts2