Monday, 17 July 2017

When to let a child quit a music instrument.


Hello. My 10 year old boy is a pretty happy and bright kid. He has played piano for 5 years. He picks it up quite quickly and plays impressively for a kid his age who only practices 10-15 minutes a day. He has a 45 minute lesson every week and sporadic recitals. In other words, I don't push him to be the next musical genius, I just wanted him to grow up playing a musical instrument and loving music. We also have drums and guitars at home, and has shown no interest in either.In fact, he shows very little interest in other organized activities. He loves kickball, but won't play soccer on a team. He loves Super Mario Kart and Harry Potter and lots of other stuff, but nothing I could put him in a class in. I want him to grow up doing something, and he could choose but he just says "fine, I will just stick to piano I guess". Every summer camp he has done he mostly gets bored and complains about something. Surf Camp was too cold, for example.Over the years, he will get angry at piano. He gets excellent grades and his teachers love him. Polite kid. But when he gets in front of a piano, he will say horrible things like "I wish I was dead so I wouldn't have to play anymore" or "piano sucks" during a lesson.I told him he had to deal with it and could give up when he's 16 if he still hates it. Everyone always says they regret stopping so I didn't want to do that to him...but he really seems to hate it and I think if anything he will never even look at a piano when he is older.Does anything have any relatable advice when you just decided enough was enough and quitting was OK. Or will this set a bad precedent. He already doesn't like to work too hard to achieve any goals, and this in part to being such a bright kid and getting by easily in school. I want him to realize you have to work really hard sometimes to progress at things, but that he can do it if he sticks with it.Thanks yall. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2twfb6O

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