Speaking on the behalf of my sister... she just received a package full of gifts for her 7-year-old son from her ex.A little bit of background on this ex's previous actions: he was physically and verbally abusive towards my sister and nephew, basically chased us on the highway for a good 20 minutes, was arrested for possession of drug paraphernalia as well as battery/assault towards his current wife (charges were dropped, though), on and on. One of the scariest moments was when he made a comment that he would watch us from afar, and he knows where "your sister (me) sits all the time." This was bone-chilling because there was a period of time last year, when I was very ill, I sat and slept in a recliner near a large sliding glass door.They used to have a "informal" custody arrangement until an incident a few years ago when my nephew basically refused to go with him for his turn. Cops were called, and a cop asked my nephew if he wanted to go... he said no. That was that. We also ceased contact with him since we discovered that the ex took a belt to my nephew whenever he peed or pooped in his pants or bed.Anyways, the problem is my sister doesn't want my nephew to grow up and accuse her from withholding gifts or keeping him away from his father. We've repeatedly told him that it is okay if he wants to see his dad... of course my nephew is conflicted because it's his father, yet he doesn't really remember WHY his father causes feelings of dread and terror in him.So what should my sister do? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2vgACeo
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