Full disclosure: this is a burner account and don't post very often so I apologize now if I am breaking the subreddit rules. My mind is going a million miles a second right now and just need some help/advice. Who better to ask for help with this situation than other parents!After dinner tonight, one of the ladies who watches our 2 boys (ages 3 and 1) called and proceeded to tell my wife that the primary caregiver/homeowner's son (approximately 12 years old) was caught by said caregiver (his mother) inappropriately touching one of the boys (approximately 2 years old, probably younger). The timeframe of when this happened and the extend of what is being considered "inappropriate" is unknown right now.The parent of this child was notified by the caregiver (again, timeframe unknown) and the parent contacted the Department of Human Services for the state I live in (Iowa.)There has been no confirmation that our 2 boys were involved, and my mind is currently processing that this is a good thing, however, there is this little needle in the back of my head saying that that doesn't mean jack because it's probably not the first time. My wife was crying for a good hour and has said that this is her worst nightmare come true... I just hugged her for a good 20 minutes to console her and now I can tell the lack of information is gnawing at her.For those parents who have dealt with this, and any professionals (counselors, legal, medical, etc) who choose to weigh in... what do we do next?!I assume DHS will want to interview our oldest, and possibly us. If they don't... how do we get a serious answer out of a kid that age to find out if anything happened? What about the 1 year old?!?!He has just recently started "discovering himself" and doing things like pulling the front of the pants down exposing himself to us (he has not done it to anyone else that we know of.) We tell ourselves that this is normal for this age but now this is throwing up a HUGE red flag.I am getting angry with myself right now because I feel like I should be furious... but I don't think I have all of the information to feel that way yet. Is that normal?It's WAY too soon to tell but what sort of legal rights do we have?I will attempt to answer questions but for the protection of all parties it will be rather vague. Since it is getting somewhat late I may not respond until tomorrow.tl:dr - daycare provider told us that an infant boy was "touched" by the providers son and I don't know how to process this... via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2vWKzNx
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