Modesty without body shaming?

Hello all...I have a 13 year old boy and a 7 year old girl. My son has always been super easy, my daughter is a good kid, just has that teenager attitude already, but both are pretty minimal issue kids.One issue I do have, is my daughter goes back and forth between wearing inappropriately revealing clothes and wearing layers because she is "fat" or "uncomfortable with my body". :/So what do I say to her when I feel like something she is wearing isn't enough coverage, without her feeling like I think she is "too fat to look at", or without making her ashamed of her body?Generally it goes like: Me: I don't think that those shorts are appropriate outside of dance class, can you please go change into some longer ones? 7yo: is it because I look gross? M: no, I just think that some parts of our body need to be private. 7: because I'm fat? M: ...Later that day M: why are you wearing leggings under your nightgown? It's already a long night gown. 7: I'm just not comfortable with my body. M: ...I do go into the "there are worse things to be in life than fat" speech (she isn't fat at all, but I want to be sure she knows you don't judge based on that) but I don't get it. Where does a 7 year old pick up things like "I'm just not comfortable with my body"???? And how do you teach modesty without teaching her there is something wrong with her body? Is it just a phase?She is VERY sensitive to the "mean girl" mentality, and while she doesn't get picked on much, she will take every little comment to heart when it comes to criticism. I make sure I don't criticize her, or even myself in front of her but I can't shield her from every Regina George on the bus and playground either. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2tFhzNB