Hi there, Sorry for the bad English, it is not my first language.I am looking for "dad friendly" playground safety information for the father of my son (2 , turning 3 in a month).I am seriously concerned he has no safety awareness which probably is due to a lack of exposure in his surrounding (FB bubble, not interested in 'toddler accident headlines', not interested in stories on r/parenting)... but certainly also due to a lack of cognitive reception.Up until now I have been trying to let him do his dad-son "adventures" on the playground and public pool. I knew he was letting him climb big structures and I knew he was going on one of the waterslides in the public pool with him together. I didn't like it but decided to chose my battles and assumed he would make sure our son is always safe.Partner thinks our son enjoys challenging activities like climbing the big slides or spider nets. I believe too that our son enjoys this but in my worldview it doesn't mean he should be allowed to do something that is dangerous and possibly lethal. I don't think our son has the ability to react safely in case he slips or something unexpected happens.As I wrote above, I decided to pick my battles and let them have their bonding time - albeit if risky for my taste. I was under the impression that if they would climb high, my partner was with him on the climbing structure - as in right next to him. Yet what I witnessed yesterday for the first time sent me straight into a panic attack:Seems like now that our son is appearing secure on these structures, his father stays on the ground... whilst our toddler climbs 3 - 4 meter high spiderweb structures - the ones that are just ropes and big gaps that a toddler can easily slip and fall through. To make matters worse, he also lets him climb up a slide which has like 10cm rims on each side.I had a conversation with my partner and I told him that what I saw was very concerning. He thinks I am overreacting and nagging him for nothing. In this talk he also mentions that the waterslide in the public pool is 10 meters high and that he slides with him on his lap "for safety" and sometimes kiddo bounces his head but all is ok when they land in the big pool...I am speechless. It seems as if he has absolutely no awareness for safety so he needs to get educated - fast!I already sent him links to the NYT article about toddlers breaking their legs when sliding with parents. I sent him a local safety advice that toddlers and preschoolers shouldn't climb structures higher than 180cm.I am sending them to him via FB messenger, hoping if he opens and collects the cookies on those websites, it might influence his FB feed a bit so he gets exposed to more stories that in turn might influence his awareness over time.I know he will not take sites like Boredpanda or mom blogs seriously. I need some other resources to help him understand the risk. When I was pregnant he read the British NHS newsletter and maybe Lucie's List once in a while.What else that is speaking to dads is out there?Edit: I should add that this is not about risky play vs helicopter parenting. I let my son play and explore and I rather praise him for bracing himself properly if he falls instead of cooing. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2vBNrQE
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