Hub wants 3 year old to put herself to bed. I disagree. Who's right?

Here's the scenario: the hubby is always trying to get our 3.5 year old "to be more independent". Last night he made her go to her room (upstairs) by herself and put herself to bed. To be fair, he didn't do it in a bad way (didn't yell or scold or anything like that). Thing is, she didn't want to go up there by herself. She was crying and said she was afraid to go up there alone. He talked to her and told her there was nothing to be afraid of and was actually pretty tender about it. I didn't intervene because I didn't want to undermine him. Typically, we go upstairs and tuck her in (either he does or I do). She tells us about her day and then goes to sleep. I actually like that little routine but every now and again he gets these (in my view stupid, but it's just my view) ideas and is like a dog with a bone. I did tell him this morning when the girls were out of earshot that I thought it was important for us to go up there with her because "especially for [him], it's the ONLY time she has [his] undivided attention and doesn't have to compete with the television". (His incessant tv watching is a sore point in our household but that's an issue for another day). Who's right about this? I get that he wants her to be strong and independent, but she's only 3. Isn't that a little young? Or am I just being a panicky patty? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2v3ZokO