I am currently 7 months pregnant. We have decided to wait until our baby is born to find out their sex. If our baby is a boy, I had just assumed that we would not be circumcising him. The reasons for this included:We are not a part of any religion or culture that would require this.We do not live in a place where circumcision is the most common practice (only about 1/3 of baby boys are circumcised where we live).I don't want to cause our baby any unnecessary pain.My husband is not circumcised and his penis is awesome.But wait...my husband actually IS circumcised. I just found this out this past weekend while discussing circumcision in regards to our baby and I am still in shock.I'm sure most of you are wondering "How did you not know this?" and believe me, so am I. My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years and all this time I thought he was not circumcised. There is no scar, he has skin on his penis that you can move back and forth (including over the tip) and he does not need any lubricant to masturbate. I have seen several penises in my life and while they all differ to some degree, his was more similar to the penises that were not circumcised.My husband is from a different country than any man I have previously been with. After doing some research it appears that in his country doctors perform circumcisions differently. They do something called "loose circumcision". I wasn't even aware that this was a thing.Apparently my husband had always just assumed that his son would be circumcised as he has never experienced problems with his penis and he can't imagine his life (or his penis) any differently than it is.He thinks he would hate to have "a ton of foreskin" but he also wasn't aware that he has more skin/foreskin (I don't really know honestly) than the other circumcised penises I have seen. He actually found it hilarious that I thought he wasn't circumcised and was just as surprised as I was. He is not set on circumcision 100% and is open to not circumcising on the opinion of my doctor.Now, I slightly resent leaving a very important decision up to just one person. I know our doctor is a highly trained medical professional and I do mostly trust his advice, but I would prefer to make the decision with my husband.I am personally leaning towards not circumcising as I had previously thought. My worry is that if my doctor recommends circumcision, my husband will refuse to accept any alternative opinions. My husband tends to trust medical professionals implicitly.I certainly don't want to fight with my husband, and I know that we will fight if my doctor recommends something and I question it. My husband's argument will be "you are not a doctor" and I can't really argue with that. Of course, if my doctor does recommend not circumcising, my husband will go along with that and I think I could be happy with that decision.The one thing that hasn't made me feel like not circumcising is the only option, is the experience my friend had with her 2 sons. They chose not to circumcise, but when the boys were 3 and 5 they both got circumcised as there was some problem causing them extreme pain. This was about 5 years ago and all I remember was the older one screeching at the top of his lungs "I want it back the way it was" for almost 2 weeks after he was circumcised. It was so sad to see the little guy in pain like that. My fear is that our baby could potentially need a circumcision later in life and that it could be a traumatic experience for him.I don't know. I just feel a bit confused and like my situation isn't as simple as just outweighing the pros/cons online. It seems like there are so many people online who wish their parents had left their foreskin intact and some of them even going for restoration surgeries, but it also seems that there are so many people who get circumcised later in life and wish their parents had done it when they were a baby. It really seems like there is no 100% correct answer.I know many people have strong opinions about this topic, however I am looking forward to hearing your views in regards to my specific situation. Thanks in advance for your input. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2tejbJX
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