Many of people of many stripes have asked me what I feel like being a parent, and I have consistently had a poor answer - namely 'I don't really know'. Though in a very real sense I woke up one day and Was a Parent, there was no paradigm shift in Being; no surge of paternal hormones or moment when I held my kid for the first time and realized 'yes, this is me, I am Dad now'.The best I can say is that parenting feels like me, but also there's this cool baby I love a lot.One thing I've realized over the past few months though, is that Parenting - in the present tense - feels completely natural. Giving my time, love, and care to this little creature is natural, and if not effortless, certainly obvious.At the same time, parenting in the future tense is completely bonkers! This kid is going to be FIVE!? What?? He'll be ten!?I have never been good at answering 'where I'll be in five years', in ten. I feel, whatever else - in five years I'l be in kindergarten, holding my kid's hand. In ten we'll be in soccer, or rock climbing, or hiking, or playing Magic.So I guess parenting, to me, is the feeling of comforting my baby and knowing 'of course, of course' - and at the same time, it is feeling totally mystified that this little critter will be a toddler, a child, a person - but I'll be there there. Of course, of course, of course, of course.I love you little guy <3 via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2dFaFjU
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