Original http://ift.tt/2ahhjeV you all for your advice. I was unable to respond to all but I read all of them. So that night I did my best to talk to him, but it didn't exactly go according to plan. It was plain that we were both resenting each other and assuming the other had it easy and/or was not appreciated. I don't recall exactly how I went about it but I think how I truly feel that he was getting away with some responsibility came through. When we first brought baby home it was clear he had good intentions when it came to helping, I think he slipped into this routine still giving himself the credit of those good intentions. Anyways I was desperate and pissed off and I just emailed him a link to the original post. This seems to have worked because he put her to bed and changed a diaper before work the next morning. He also seems ready to give me some time. We are trying to establish a routine. I'm not yet sure about the weekends but during the week I was going to go to the gym for a couple hours then he comes home. Then put her to bed and give him his night. But when the time came for that I was too tired and just wanted a nap. So now I want to propose a different idea. He was mad at first because he wanted time as soon as he was off work to himself. Now I think he'll be mad because I'm trying to change things. Although it will give him what he wants he'll still have to compensate and I don't know for sure if it'll upset him but I have a hunch. I was thinking I'd take her on a walk after he gets off, give him some alone time but then he lets me go to sleep earlier then him and the baby because they're both night owls and I'm exhausted. I think that might work better. For the weekends I'd like a night to myself, I've always been fond of sleeping. I think better sleep would solve a lot of the issues. He gets good rest. I get up with her before she starts outright crying. Also, more importantly, when I start school again I'd like Saturday to catch up on any studying. So we have a long road ahead of us. Everyone's responses helped immeasurably. I am so glad I posted. I feel legitimized and that alone gives me energy to be understanding to him. Thank you so very much! Wish me good luck again! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2a0QFAR
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