My husband and I have struggled in our relationship for quite some time. Our pregnancy was not planned but it wasn't something we were preventing either. Our son is now almost 8 weeks old and things just suck. We've had the divorce/separation argument, we've discussed custody possibilities and we overcame it but it's going back to that.I have been a stay at home mom since I had our son and will be going back to work part time August 8th. Even though right now I'm a sahm until then I still need my rest but I definitely don't get any of it. I don't get any help from my husband like, ever.He works 8 hour days. That's it. I don't make him get up through the night when our son wakes, I take care of it. Every 2 hours and he's up for an hour, o literally am lucky to get 4 hours of sleep and it isn't solid sleep, obviously. Then I get up to make him breakfast and pack his lunch, take the dog out, feed and change our son and struggle with getting him back to sleep then finally I get to take a small cat nap. Then I clean the apartment, take dog out again, feed and change son, laundry, cat nap, over and over in 2 hour increments.When he gets home does he change our son or feed him? Once a week, if that. Does he spend time holding our son or helping me when he's fussy? Again, once a week or so if that. He will come home, undress and I'll have dinner ready. He will eat dinner then hop on video games. While he's playing he doesn't pay any attention to our son. He just puts it all on me. Son gets fussy, I pick him up and change him and feed him. I get him back to sleep and continue to clean. Get fussy again? Me, again. He doesn't even tell me when he is fussy. He waits until I hear our son belch out in a full blown tear session which really pisses me off because all he wants is fed when he wakes up, that's it! But he acts like it's the end of the world to have to drop his god damn controller just to feed his own fucking kid.I'm at a loss here. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I've debated on leaving and just moving back into my mother's until I get something figured out. My son deserves so much better. I've tried over and over and I'm not getting through to him.We've talked about things in a calm manner. I agreed to 2 hours of video game play when he gets home AFTER spending time with us and that worked for a week then went out the window. I'm sick of feeling like our son and myself are second priority to him. How the hell can I fix this?!If this isn't the best place for this type of advice please refer me elsewhere!Tldr: husband doesn't put son and I before video games. Doesn't help with son. Help. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2aAelOD
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