SAHM and my husband wants me to change my parenting

I am a SAHM to a very active 21m old. She is confident, outgoing, strong, resilient and fearless. My husband loves that she is these things and I feel my ‘style’ of parenting is a large reason why she is such a capable young lady. I let her take risks, I let her attempt midly risky things without my help (though I always give it when she asks), I let her walk without restraint when we are out, I let her do ‘grown up’ things like put glassware away in cupboards or climb onto dining chairs to help me in the kitchen. Many of these things freak him out and he can be quite ‘jumpy’ around her. Yeah she has fallen off things and bumped her head, but after a cuddle she gets right back ‘on the horse’ to try again.We have a large sensory/adventure park just down the road which we visit daily and she has recently started climbing higher and riskier things like rocks that have been cemented into a sloping climbing wall. Initially I had my hand hovering behind her bum but she no longer needs it, she is quite capable.Today she climbed up one onto a platform which is about waist height. I was watching her with a friend (on a playdate) about 6 steps away, once up, she was playing on the platform and fell off one side onto shredded bark (not the chunky kind, its the texture of straw). I waited to see of she needed me or if she was cool, she stood up and called for me, I jogged over, dusted her off, gave her a cuddle and she quickly decided she wanted to get back up, so I put her up and we played the ‘trust’ game where she ‘falls off’ and I catch and swoop her around and back onto the platform. All was well.I casually told hubby about it and he freaked out. He says I need to be within 1 step of her anytime she climbs something. Nothing I said to try and reassure him that we go to this park daily and I trust her abilities to take small risks worked. He said that because he is so concerned, I need to try and parent more like he does because it is respecting his feelings on the subject.But I do not want to be a helicopter parent. When she was smaller I hovered and helped, but she has been walking since 9 months, she is physically strong and is capable of so much more than he gives her credit for. I am with her 24/7, I know her every quirk and I know when to step in and when to give her space.Am I so wrong to say I will not hover even if he asks? Yeah if I leave her to it she may get hurt sometimes, but I feel I know her enough to know when she is attempting something that does require my help and when I can step back and just watch to see how she goes.TLDR Is it ok to allow a 21m old to engage in mildly risky play without hovering (but keeping within sight and earshot). via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2LROJPA