Hi guys...My daughter is 10 months. She’s got a bunch of new milestones and four teeth coming in at once. During the day, she’s funny, curious, and all around awesome. She’s never been big on cuddles unless they’re on her terms (which is more often lately).Bedtime has been kinda sucky lately though. She wants to cruise until she drops. Now that I’ve taken over bedtime duty, our routine is usually: bottle, butt change, lights out, 20 mins of Blue Planet in her rocking chair and quietly talking about it, and then she’s drowsy and ready to sleep. This has worked for me consistently for weeks, and I’ve been pretty chuffed about it.Last night, it didn’t. She was super fussy. When I tried to soothe her, she’d just get worse. I’d try holding her, and she’d spit her bink out so I would pick it up. I stopped after her third attempt and it went from fussing to full on screaming. She writhed and twisted and kicked me in the head, so I calmly put her in her pack and play, kissed her and said I love you, goodnight and went in the next room.She spent 20 minutes crying herself to sleep, but if she saw or heard me the crying turned to screaming. So I just went full extinction for the first time ever, and I’m kind of bummed about it.My dad, who my daughter has ALWAYS cuddled for and fallen asleep cuddling with, says I need to be stronger (willpower speaking) - he prides himself on being the only one of her three primary caregivers who can rock her to sleep. He pretty much just holds her close, keeps her from squirming, and she’s out quickly. Except, I’m not physically capable of that.I can tell he doesn’t agree with CIO and to be fair, I don’t either. I don’t want to do that. But if soothing takes her from just crying to full on screaming and soul-sucking sobs, I don’t see the point??Guys, I would like some input. I feel like a bad mom because I apparently don’t have the will power to hold her and keep her from squirming until she falls asleep. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2wYHdPh
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