Emotional abuse

How can I tell if my SO is emotionally abusing my daughter vs if his parenting style is just different from mine ?We have been together a long time. When we first moved in together, he was definitely not being a good co parent. He used to time my daughter when she ate, yell that he was going to take her TV away unless she finished her dinner (she was crying her eyes out), complain that she didn’t ride her bike long enough, etc. everyone I talked to said I needed to just give him time.we are several years past that point and I’m still not sure if he’s being too harsh.He criticizes her a lot. We don’t eat dinner together much anymore because I couldn’t handle how much of a pain in the butt it was. She tells me that he’s mean to her and that she doesn’t like spending time with him. He will invite her to go places with him and she won’t go. They seem unhappy whenever they’re around each other.He can be neglectful. If I go out to dinner with friends, he most of the time doesn’t feed her dinner. Sometimes he does now.Their relationship stresses me out. He isn’t the best communicator with me either - I have issue with his tone and how he speaks to me or answers my questions.We got a new toy the other day, and what should have been a fun experience turned into a headache because he kept raising his voice at her and stressing her out while she was trying to figure out how to use it.I’ve talked to him about this countless times ...when I do, he will either say he doesn’t think he’s being too hard on her or he will just close off completely and be totally hands off with her. There’s no balance there.Is this emotionally abusive or am I overreacting ?TLDR: my SO criticizes my daughter and their relationship stresses me out because they are constantly unhappy when they interact. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2wXRz1R