Daycare says my 3YO daughter is “slow” at certain tasks

For background, our daycare puts kids into different classes based on their age, much like schools in the West. So kids are for the most part placed with others their age and the same developmental level. My child is in a class that has about 10 kids and 2 main caregivers with 1 or 2 extra part-time caregivers.Last week, we were told by our daycare that our 3YO daughter was “slow” at completing tasks compared to the other kids her age. For example, they said they have to tell my daughter to get ready to play outside before everyone else, because she will inevitably get sidetracked by other kids’ conversations, etc. And then, even with that extra time, she will be either the last one finished getting ready or 2nd to last (behind only the youngest child in her class).The reason they tell us this is because in 2 months, my daughter will be moving up to a class with a ratio of one teacher to 20 kids. The teachers are worried she will have trouble staying on task and get left behind considering that individual attention will be stretched thinner with one less teacher and more kids.At home, she does have moments where she dawdles at a task, but I never thought it was a serious problem; I thought it was just part of being a 3YO. Getting dressed, cleaning up toys, finishing up in the bathroom, eating her food--these are tasks she does slowly sometimes, but not consistently so. I’d say about half of the time she does it without a hitch and the other half she dawdles. Things that cause her to dawdle are things that she’s curious about (eg: what others are doing), concern someone will mess with her toys (eg: her 9MO brother), or just daydreaming.We’ve tried a few things with mixed results. When she’s been slow, we’ve tried a timer tied to a reward/punishment, but after a while she gets so stressed out by it that she just stares at the timer whimpering and counting down without actually performing the task at hand. We’ve also tried firm verbal reminders of what she’s supposed to be doing, and she’ll speed up for a while but then revert back to doing it slowly. We’ve also tried “racing her” (eg: “I bet I can clean up faster than you can”). This has honestly had the best results at home; however, if she feels she is “losing” she will have a mini-freak out and ask us to “please don’t go faster”. However, for certain tasks, such as eating, I’m not sure I want to instill into my daughter that she necessarily needs to go “fast”, just that she can’t take all the time in the world. Also, this may work at home, but her daycare providers aren’t always going to be available to race her to complete a task.Any suggestions from those of you with similar situations would be appreciated. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2n5wsCP