Okay, so this is a throwaway, as my friends reddit and I don't want them to see my real username on this post. I dunno why they'd be in this sub but anyway.I am a 20 yo male who has discovered in the last few months that I am going to be a father to twins. It was a big shock at first, but I have a steady, well paying job so I'm not so worried. I just want everything to be okay when the babies arrive. My girlfriend doesn't know about how mean my friends are, so I'm asking for advice here instead, as I don't wanna stress her.I have three very close friends all of whom are aggressively child free, it gets to a point to where they are saying things that are completely unnecessary. Currently I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews, I babysit one or a few of them at a time occasionally, and once I was babysitting my nephew when my friends were at the house. They told me he looked like a potato, to keep him away from them, and asked me to put him in another room. I told them to leave and we didn't speak for a few months. I missed them as friends but I wasn't having that shit.They keep telling me how this pregnancy is ruining my life, so to speak. I never really was an outgoing person anyway, and although I hadn't planned on having kids til my mid twenties, it just happened and now it feels right. All my life my ultimate goal was to have a family, so that part is not a problem. The problem is my CF trying to put me off my own children. I have had numerous arguments with them but they just wont get them.I will cut them for my children, but then I will have no friends left at all.They are so cruel, they've made jokes about me cutting my children out of my gf while she's asleep (I stopped speaking to them for weeks over this one), and then they apologise and promise not to be so rude again, and then they'll go back the whole "children are Satan's spawn" route again.It's driving me crazy. They are really malicious now, completely different to when I met them first. Two of them [M/F] are a couple, and I sincerely hope they don't accidentally get pregnant because that child would have no life.They cannot take no for an answer either, and if it comes to an ultimatum, and when I pick my kids, I know they're not gonna accept that.They don't like children but they are giant ones themselves.I dunno if this post was for a rant/advice but I really appreciate anybody who takes the time to read it. I suppose I just needed to vent since there's no actual question.. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2akPFKN
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