Friday, 1 July 2016

Giving unwanted baby up for adoption when you already have kids.


Hi all. Little background info first. I was 18 when we had our first daughter (N). That was 2012. I wasn't too stressed out about getting on birth control because we wanted more kids before N got too old. A few months before N turned 2, her little sister V was born (2014). We felt our family was complete so I got on the IUD. in late 2014 I fell pregnant and lost the baby before I even realized I was pregnant. Things were fine for a year, then I again fell pregnant on the new iud , and had the iud removed. It must have been too late, or something, because at 10 weeks I lost the baby. This was over this last Christmas. I was kind of relieved. I didn't want another baby (hence why I was on birth control), but I was going to try and make things work.After the miscarriage, I didn't go back on birth control. Stupid, I know, I should have done something. I don't really have a good reason. Now, I am pregnant again. From my calculations, I'm about 5-6 weeks. Since the last miscarriage I've thought a lot. I do t want anymore kids. The kids dad and I are at the end of our relationship. Neither of us are working and can't afford everything we need as it is. Another baby would put us in such a shitty spot. But I also can't bring myself to go in for an abortion.I'm seriously considering looking into giving this baby up for adoption if I don't lose it first. I don't know how I would explain to my kids how I chose to give their sibling away. Maybe it would just be easier to do an abortion. I don't know. I'm just so unsure on what to do now.Will people pay me if I choose them for adoption? Has anyone given a baby up for adoption after already having kids? Help... via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/29kH6SR

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