Feel guilty about so much daycare

My older son is often one of the first kids to be dropped off and one of the last to be picked up from daycare. He's 3.5 years old and is there longer than his teachers...about 50 hours a week. He's a highly sensitive kid so a class of 20 rowdy kids is tough for him, but he's a trooper.My husband says our son watches him drive away while wiping away tears everyday. I know some people would say he stops crying and is fine in 5 min. But I also know he's never loved it and other kids play too rough for him and the teachers don't deal with it. He was recently bitten and they didn't notice because he tends not to speak up and other kids are just louder. Once he comes home, he sometimes takes out his stress on his younger brother.Now my younger son is about to start daycare. He's only one year old. We had a nanny for him to start off, but it was a huge financial strain and she basically took my whole salary. I've considered an after school nanny, but the daycare doesn't offer half days so it would cost about the same as a third daycare tuition.Am I worrying too much? I don't know how other families deal with the stress and ramifications of these decisions. I just can't help but feel so guilty. We don't have family around so there's no one available to pick up or drop off at other times. I've visited so many other daycares and this is our best option. Not sure if I'm looking for advice, support or commiseration, but thanks for reading. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2tV93Yc