What would you say to your kids when they are in conflict in playing.

I am a mom of two kids, both of whom are girls. One is 5 years old and one is 7 years old. Sometimes they were involved in conflicts. The 7-year-old said the younger one is too stupid because she fails to learn the rules of the game. Sometimes the 5-year-old is selfish and self-centered and she does not share the toys with her sister.The conflicts have many versions. In our culture (not American), parents tend to ignore these conflicts and try to use a single rule to solve the issue. The rule is simple but may not make sense to you. It is like "the older one SHOULD care the younger one and the younger one SHOULD gain the advantages". Does it make sense to you?I hate this way of parenting. I would ask them to tell me what happened and help them understand the situations. My goal is to cultivate more mutual understanding, communication, and sharing.My questions are:Do American kids have these conflicts in playing and life?What guidance do American parents give to their kids? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2NQRRyi