Hi everyone! I'm asking this because of my 12 year old son. He's in 7th grade, and I'm starting to get confused on how to approach issues when it comes to his grades. He's currently in GATE classes and honors math, so he's a bright kid, but I feel like up until middle school he was the type who just didn't have to study to get by. Now, he's having to work a bit harder and he's not really grasping the whole study/do homework thing. His report cards so far haven't been bad (no Cs), but his over all grades are mostly Bs. That's just an overview, but I'm mostly concerned about how he handles tests and assignments. For example, in math he failed a quiz for his recent section, then got a 100 on the next, and ultimately failed his test. This routine has been happening for the past few years and I don't know what to do next. It doesn't happen every time (his final grade has been B- at its lowest in math), but I don't think it should be happening as often as it does. I truly think he should be able to realize that because he failed the first quiz, he needs to work harder and study that material to make sure he passes the test. He does the HW, and I've shown him how to use HW to guide his studying, and how to study, he just is lazy I guess. If he fails a HW assignment, he doesn't care to look over it even though I keep telling him that's how he'll keep on track. I have tried in the past to be really naggy about it, but that didn't work and so now I just want to completely step back and let him handle it. If he needs help, he can ask, but I'm not going to be dishing out practice tests and such when he should be capable of regulating his studying, right? I guess that summarizes my biggest issue - he isn't managing his time like I see fit and his grades aren't where I would like them to be. Anyways, I'm buying a dumb phone to replace his iphone today (he knew this was going to be a consequence of failing -and he failed with a 53, not a 75 or something), and I just don't know how long to take it away or what to do if it doesn't bother him. How do I motivate him to care more about this? Me and my husband already decided to reduce his activities from 2 to 1, because maybe he feels overwhelmed. (His activity ends in 3 weeks and we just arent re enrolling, not suddenly dropping.) I have asked him why he is struggling, he always says I don't know. When I ask if he's overwhelmed or doesn't understand, he says I guess. I am a SAHM (with a math degree!) so I'm always there and willing to help him with his school work if he needs it, I just think he's old enough now to come ask instead of me hovering over him. He's overall a really great kid, very mature, responsible, respectful he's just confused on how to work hard and apply himself when something doesn't come naturally. So, how do you handle grades and expectations in your home? What do I do about my son? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2mPkPhg
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