Separated parents of reddit, what do you do when your child favours (is obsessed with) the other parent?

My ex and I separated 2 years ago and I currently see my 3.5 y/o daughter on 2 non consecutive nights a week. My daughter has always been obsessed with her mother, seeing me as a side show to the main event. She says very hurtful things to me such as 'daddy, can I tell you a secret?' to which I'll lean in and she'll say 'I love mummy more than you'. And that's one example of many I could give.This happens regularly and she tells me she doesn't want to spend more time with me, doesn't like my family and generally, takes a lot of opportunities to drive a dagger into my heart. There is also not a day that goes by that I don't hear her ask multiple times when she will be seeing her mother again.Now I understand that children can be like this sometimes but it seems to me like she has in incredibly strong, even enmeshed, relationship with her mother and it's not one I can break into. I feel like I'll never get the opportunity to be the favourite parent who is missed and she genuinely wants to spend time with.So my questions to you are:How do you cope?Did it ever change for you.Any suggestions on how I can stem the tide?Thanks via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2kYxrpC