I know it's not about me. But it's hard. My girl is 12. We can't have a day without her bursting into tears. If I use anything but a low, soothing voice, she thinks I am shouting at her. If I have to tell her twice to do something (ex, pick up your backpack from the middle of the floor), she bursts into tears. Normal, daily tasks that she has done since the dawn of time (instrument practice, putting away her clean laundry) set off a volley of huffing and sighing. If I engage, she cries that I'm being too hard on her. If I ignore it, she says I don't care about her feelings.I know it's normal tween stuff. I know her petulance is developmentally appropriate. I think in the moment she really does think she's suffering from injustice. How do I validate her feelings while also expecting her to be moderately respectful and handle her responsibilities?This evening she complained that the cats were getting cat hair on her sheets. I suggested she make her bed in the morning or keep her door closed. She put a pillow over her head and said, "I wasn't asking a question! You're always telling me what to do! Never mind! Geez!" I said, "I don't want to talk about this if you're not going to use a respectful tone." New bout of tears. When I do commiserate with her, she thinks I am being sarcastic.I know it shouldn't hurt my feelings, but it kind of does. Any advice for how to keep my sanity? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2jXU8Gj
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