My daughter just turned three yesterday. I can not live like this anymore.

I have a 5 year old son and 3 year old daughter. My son has never done or acted the way my daughter does. Arynn, my daughter, loves trashing our house. Unlike her brother, instead of oh, I don't know, playing with toys she enjoys pouring cups of whatever liquid she gets her hands on all over the cats and or floors. We are limited when it comes to food at the moment, we have to be frugal with money. Arynn will take whatever meal or snack she gets, run from the table, then throw it. I literally don't know how she keeps going, the kids not eating.I have sat right next to her to stop this and she has swiped her plate off the table right in front of me. I have done time out, talked, tried to reason with her, anything and everything. The only thing we don't do is spankings. No matter what I do she trashes the house with food and milk. She figured out how to take the lid off of sippy cups and will pour milk all over her bed and floor DAILY. Right now her floors covered in goldfish and I'm not fuking cleaning it.Please tell me what I'm doing wrong as a mother. I'm trying so hard, I'm crying by bed time because I suck so much. I'm sick of cleaning 20 times a day, not kidding. This all started about 3 months ago.. I was so emotional today from her getting into the pantry and wasting a full weeks worth of snacks I put her to bed at 5, and sent my son to grandmas. I'm not a single mom, but their dads on the road all week, we only see him on weekends. I literally can't use the RR with out all hell breaking loose!!!! What do I do!!!!!! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2ksqSuK