A little back story. I had my oldest at 17, she will be 5 in December. We didn't work out for a huge number of reasons. I met my now husband at 19 when my daughter was a year and a half. We've been to court twice for custody. I now have full custody and he was doing supervised visitation at a center. He finished that and then moved on to the next step which was surprised by me and my husband. My husband has been daddy to her for forever at this point. Anyway we do two visits and it went really well. After that I didn't hear from him for a month. When he finally did contact me he said he was done with visitation and going through the courts. After that we moved 5 hours away. She doesn't really talk about him and I've heard from him once in the last 4 months since we've been here. He just doesn't care. Now he is having a baby with his long time girlfriend. I was pretty mad and upset when I found out. Not for the fact that he is having another child, I was upset for my daughter. If he steps up for this child how is she going to feel when she gets older and understands a whole lot more. We've decided to kind of wait it out until the new baby is born and go ahead and tell her. This is her sibling and we don't want to not tell her and then her be blindsided years later. My question is, how do we go about talking to her about this. How do we tell a 5 year old that she has a new sibling that she most likely won't see for a very long time? Thank you parents of Reddit? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2fifHPf
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