I (25F) have recently separated from a 5 year long relationship with a possesive demon (27M). I will try to keep this short. We have a kid (3F) together so as we are trying to figure out custody rules without a court order, corona virus blows up and everything went to lock down, children are out of school and we want to stay home for safety. He is staying at his moms for the time being and had our daughter for about a week since I still had to work for another week. So after this point our daughter rejoins me and my family. I was clear that if she comes shes not travelling back to her dad until this virus clears up because I'm not going to risk anybody in my family to become infected.So, dad doesnt contact us for a facetime or anything for a few days then when he does hes complaining that I dont try to call him.....even tho he does that for me. When he facetime i dont just ignore, i answer. So during the call he would chat with his daughter and then try to talk to me and pry about who I've been talking to and even names names of my old high school friends since those are the only friends I have. I've made zero friends since high school. Anyways I tell him if he continues to ask about me I'll hang up. And so i hang up. Get kids ready for bed. I'm not looking at my phone. Kids fall asleep i look at my messages and hes threatening me about how my behavior is helping his case to win custody of our daughter. He sends me texts saying I just want 3 minutes to say good night and just to say bye etc.etc. He can use his texts in court against me; Whereas I told him on the call if he doesnt stop asking about me then I will hang up. I spent a whole 60 seconds saying bye. Our daughter also said bye while he continues to try to talk about who I have been talking to. Am I wrong for hanging up on him at this point? Me not having evidence of this call means I cant use it in court. This guy is evil and seems to be manipulating things to benefit him before he takes it to court. I'm losing sleep and losing hair over this.TL;DR: My daughters dad is super possesive of me and uses our daughter as a way to threaten me. He calls to talk to his daughter but also takes a chance to provoke me and make me upset. Should I stress about whether I will lose custody of my daughter to this possesive guy? How can I manage myself to react in the most neutral way possible towards this guy? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2waU9Ce
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