As a mom, why is my career always seen as less important or “optional”?

I quit my job over three years ago to be a SAHM. We’ve since had another baby in that time, and our kids are now 2 and 3.Even though my fiancé and I made a similar amount back then, it was decided that I would quit due to breastfeeding and childcare costs. I never planned on staying home and not working for as long as I have been.Recently, I’ve been looking for work in different fields that offer better hours and pay. This has been an issue for EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. that I’ve told.“How much would you even be making?! It’s easier to stay home. It’s not healthy to put the kids with a babysitter.” -My fiancé’s mom“Just stay home with the kids. You don’t need to work.” -My fiancé’s dad“I’m not splitting childcare with you, so you might as well just stay home. You would only break even every month.” -My fiancéBasically, no one thinks my mental health and/or happiness is important. I need to work for my own sanity.I have goals too. I have dreams too. I have skills too. I have social needs too. I’m young enough to still get a very sustainable career going.Yeah, I don’t “need” to work, but why is my job always pushed aside and put on the back burner? No one would ever say this about my fiancé’s career. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2wKkibp