I’m new to this group - so I’m sorry if this is an over discussed topic.My daughter and I are polar opposites. I’ve always been a quiet and reserved introvert. I thoroughly enjoy reading, and just quietness in general. Even as a kid, I would avoid my friends group if this certain kid was around - let’s call her Jennifer. I would literally hide from my friends and go to the library, if I noticed Jennifer was around. She was extremely loud, super obnoxious, and just a bundle of hyper, agitating energy. I remember she would literally bounce up and down while just holding a normal conversation. We had mutual friends for years, and I was never mean to her, but I always preferred solitude over her company.Fast forward some years later and my daughter is a total Jennifer. She has ADHD and is just all over the place. She’s loud, obnoxious, hyper, and just grates my nerves day after day. I often cry after putting her to bed, because she is so taxing. She lacks ANY impulse control, and it seems to be getting worse instead of better.She’s in 5th grade and her workload is getting more intense. Her elementary school has split 5th grade into 3 classes a day - trying to prepare them for middle school.No amount of working with her or trying to encourage her has affected her in any way. Even on her medicine, she’s extremely unorganized and lacks motivation. She truly doesn’t care about anything - except MAYBE Minecraft or YouTube. I’ve tried so hard to help her become organized, but she truly doesn’t care. She’s supposed to complete any work that she didn’t finish in class for homework (which is apparently most of it).Well, her solution is to cram all of the paperwork into her backpack. She has a binder and a planner - which has sections for unfinished class work, projects, study guides, etc. It doesn’t matter. She refuses to use it and everything is crumpled and stuffed into her backpack along with flyers, notices, and other random nonsense. This is for the stuff that DOES make it home. We have even found assignments in the driveway and many just go missing. I’m extremely organized, almost OCD, when it comes to academics and organization. We couldn’t be more opposite and nothing I try to instill in her is taken to heart. Ever heard the saying “in one ear and out the other?” That’s my child, without any exaggerations.Over the last 10 years, I’ve gotten used to the barrage of the hyperactivity, incessant noise, and the filter-free being that is my child... and I truly love her. But I am worried. This is the first year without hand-holding at school and she is sinking fast. My little brother had ADD and really struggled in school. He ended up dropping out in eighth grade, after getting kicked out of numerous alternative schools. He turned into an absolute degenerate and criminal for a while. He’s straightened up his act, but works very hard manual labor jobs and still hasn’t earned a high school equivalency.I am the first person in my family to go to college and while education is important to me, I have seen a lot of people in my family who are successful and happy without ever earning a degree. While I would love to see her go to college one day, I am honestly just hoping to see her graduate high school at this point. I’m truly concerned for her future - I can’t get this kid to take anything seriously. She’s failing multiple subjects, and honestly doesn’t even care. Most of her grades are just completion grades and she’s failing horribly. This year is literally about accountability and completion. That’s it.Any ideas, help, tips, or reading materials would be greatly appreciated. I just want what’s best for my daughter. I’m sure not every single kid with ADD/ADHD have become degenerates - so how do I motivate this kid to get her act together before she fails 5th grade and continues this downward spiral?TL;DR - My extremely ADHD and impulsive 10 year old is in danger of failing 5th grade, because she refuses any attempt at becoming organized or accountable. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2kNrqgZ
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