7yo sleeping in same bed, husband disagrees.

Not as crazy as it sounds, I hope.Don't want to get into too many details but I didn't have custody of my child between the age of 2-7 because of an international custody dispute, and I didn't get to see her because I'm an alien in the country my husband lives (where she was born) and he would conveniently be out of town during my visitation. Initially I took her with me home because of my husband's drug problem but I was forced to return her and by then had no status. I didn't receive primary custody until he got arrested a few months ago.My daughter is with myself and my husband and had no memories of me and I barely speak her first language. I noticed her crying during the night and I brought her into our bedroom to be able to comfort her. That kind of stuck, I was scared of leaving her in another room and not being able to comfort her through the night. It's nothing big, but I hear her crying and hold her until she falls asleep.I have a 3 yo with my now husband and he thinks what I'm doing is highly inappropriate with a 7 yo because it's barely appropriate with our 3 yo to cosleep. He thinks I'm causing her damage, but I look at it as temporary, she still wakes up during the night crying but it is a lot less frequent now. I've thought of having a baby monitor to please my husband and take care of her at the same time but I'm afraid it wouldn't wake me. I can calm her down when she cries and whereas when she first came to live with us she was highly anxious and treated me as a stranger I feel this is strengthening our bond, it's letting her trust me, I noticed her point at me once when someone asked where her mother was. My husband thinks it's the wrong way to go about it but I don't know what else to do. I don't think I'm as crazy as it sounds but it's true I don't have experience with older kids, I basically jumped to the 7 yo stage without any inbetween adjustment so maybe I am babying her.Do you think this might be causing her harm, any other solutions you can think of? Sorry for my English, not my first language. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2OHPoEP