Red Flags from boyfriend?

I'm looking for some feedback and objective opinions since I'm the parent here and could be over analyzing or misconstruing things. I'm a bit of a worry wart but am usually good with intuition. Just not sure in this case.I have been dating a man that I get along with wonderfully, for about 4 months now. I have a 2 year old daughter that met him for the first time around the 2nd month we were dating. We just went out to get pizza for about a half hour that first meeting. Since then, she's been in his presence two or three more times briefly. So a total of maybe four times. The last two times, he picked her up and flew her around like a plane and she loved it. He has also purchased her a couple of toys. He's very affectionate with me, isn't afraid to be emotionally vulnerable and we seem to enjoy spending a lot of time together. He always tells me "she comes first", which I appreciate.The problem is this - The last couple times she's been around us, he takes A LOT of photos and videos of her. This makes me a bit uncomfortable because it feels too fast for him to already "love her as his own" and so the documentation seems unnecessary. He's spent a total of maybe 3.5 hours with us as a trio. He does always send me the pictures, but still. He also has saved photos off of my Instagram stories, which I thought was strange. He just told his mom recently that I have a daughter and so it's possible he's sharing photos with her as he has expressed loving me like no other woman he's been with.Secondly, he has called me on Facetime before while I'm bathing her (unknowingly) and he said one day "awww, let me see her" and I just allowed her face to be in the frame to say hi. I was NOT going to violate my child's privacy. I've also asked for privacy in changing her since we weren't near a public bathroom once and he was respectful in that. He's offered to watch her while I run to the bathroom or into a store at one of our outings and I've said "no". It's too early for that anyway. Today, he offered to drive all the way up to see me and aid in taking my daughter to the playground. I told him not to because the drive is too much for such a short visit. I was later complaining about her restlessness and how she has been going to bed late and he said "I'll come take over ;)" and I was like..."take over putting her to sleep?" and he responded "Yeah". I quickly said she'll only fall asleep for me. He said "sure" and let it go.Lastly, is he mentioned one time when we were first dating, that there was a traumatizing incident with him and his aunt when he was a kid because his cousin accused him of touching her inappropriately. He denied that it happened and apparently his aunt later apologized. Recently, he's been having some issues sexually performing and I asked him if he was abused as a child and he said "yes, but I'm not ready to talk about it."Am I overreacting and reading way into this behavior that is potentially innocent? Or am I on to something assuming it's a little strange? He really does seem to care a lot about me. He's never requested her presence during our hang outs but has said it's fine if I ever needed to bring her along. He has a great step-father that has accepted him as a son and he really loves this man and sings his praises. Maybe he's just acting by example. I'm not sure. I don't want my feelings for him to blind my judgement as a parent in protecting my daughter. But on the same token, I don't want to ruin our relationship with accusations and unfounded worries. When my sirens go off, my mama shield goes up. It's instinctual. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2IsWsAO