Parenting differences and 1st day of kindergarten

Hi,So I'm looking for suggestions on how to navigate 1st day of kindergarten for our son when my wife and i have different expectations. For background, we moved from the bay area up to the Pacific northwest a couple of years ago when our son was 3. I pushed harder for the move because I wanted to get us settled with a more reasonable cost-of-living before he'd reach school. This past year, we purchased a house in an area with some of the best public schools in the state, so I figured that I could breath easier trusting that we did our best to set up an environment where our son will be able to thrive going forward.Now, I feel that my wife is having a hard time letting go... She is more of a helicopter parent than I am (although because of her, i hover much more than I'd like to)... I feel that she's never really satisfied and has a hard time trusting others with our son. Her parents watched him when he was young, but she's never really trusted a baby sitter with him, and pulled him out of our first two attempts at pre-school. Last year, we had him in a 3day a week preschool, but after starting out ok, she started complaining that the teachers weren't communicating well with her. I think she's very detail oriented, and she gets frustrated when her level of details aren't told to her at what she considers appropriate time.So this past week, we had a packet pickup session and a meet the teacher at kindergarten.. I feel it went ok, and they provided an appropriate level of detail. They didn't guide us through everything, and there was some confusion of details, but the teacher indicated that she'd be sending an e-mail with update on details later in the week. My wife had a list of questions she wanted to ask, and got answers to a number of them, but she felt the teacher didn't give her sufficient attention and was trying to move on to the other parents (we were there longer than any other parents. I think the teacher was courteous and answered all questions as best she could, but did try to gently move us along) ... So now, she feels hurt, and is already upset w/ the teacher, and starting to think of other options. My feeling is that, in general, its unreasonable to expect the level of detail she expects, and that things are messy and ambiguous when you have a child... I fully expect that things are going to go wrong, that he'll have good and so-so teachers, but that he'll be happy regardless -- and i think it's pointless trying to agitate for "perfect"..When I try to go with the "give it time, things will be ok" approach, I get accused of not listening to / supporting her...Any suggestions?Thx via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2eMxiAV