My 14 year old has no friends

My 14 year old son has no friends. He starts high school next week and I am very anxious. He had a lot of friends growing up. He was invited to birthday parties and had a lot of play dates. I got him involved in every activity possible but is not really athletic. He has flat feet, asthma, wears glasses and a little overweight. He loves video games, board games and movies. He is a bright, loving and obedient teen and we are a close family. About two years ago I noticed his old friends were not calling as much but I had him busy curling during the weekends and he enjoyed that. He also spent time with my best friends son that is also the same age (and curled with him) so I was not overly worried. Throught the past few years though I noticed he has been spending more time alone in his room playing games or in his phone. He was not doing as well on his curling team as well, as his teammates were getting much than him and my friends son started growing a lot and going through puberty. My sons "friends" at school also started growing, changing, becoming more athletic while my son pretty much stayed the same. My son is always happy when I see him around his peers, he is usually just following them around, trying to be funny and fit in. I really don't get it, he may be a little shy, but there is nothing off putting about him? He is nice and friendly and there have been a few boys that really liked him as they themselves were outcasted but they also had other interests outside of school and my son didn't really want to hang out with them. He confided in me though that he often felt "invisible" & I had to hold back the tears.But, my despair turned into hope when I saw him during his grade 8 graduation. He had the time of his life. My husband was chaperoning and told me he was dancing and laughing all night and even danced with a few girls. I thought that the summer would turn things around, but it didn't. He was often on social media seeing all his friends get together doing all these fun things while he sat around. I decided to get him volunteer at a local science program for kids this summer and he did loved it. Unfortunately, all the other volunteers were "old" (in their 20's..but old to him):).So now that the summer is over and first day of high school is next week I tried to have some hope. He will only know two kids at this school, and these are two of his "close friends" from grade school. We met up with them and their parents at an open house yesterday at the new high school and I watched my son light up with excitement at the anticipation of this experience and seeing his friends again for the first time since graduation. His two friends stayed with him but I saw him fade into the background as they made plans to go swimming after. When we went home, I saw him hold back tears. He told me that he knows deep down inside that they are not his "real" friends but he has no one else. Even my best friends son does not come by anymore and when the families get together he ignores my son.I am really nervous for him next week. I told him that he will meet friends "just like him" but I am worried as well. He is such a funny, nice kid and I was scoping the high school for these kids but didn't seem to see any! All I saw were these tall, good looking, athletic boys everywhere! He told me that he fears he will be outcasted in high school as well and I just can't stand to watch my son so lonely! Just hoping he will find his "tribe". via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2gyruyJ