About a month ago I posted here: http://ift.tt/2gpDn4S was looking for advice regarding what to say to my daughter who got rejected right before Homecoming and the boy blamed it on her height.My daughter stopped talking to the boy, and had a fabulous time at Homecoming with 6 girlfriends. Issue resolved.For all who said that it probably had nothing to do with her height, you were right! (That's what I told her too, and she got confirmation of that yesterday.)Yesterday, she handed me her phone, logged into a Kik conversation. The girl that messaged her was the boy's ex-girlfriend and they are still friends with no animosity. She told my daughter that the boy seemed to like her very much, but that he's in counseling right now for depression. His counselor and his parents both feel very strongly that he has some things that he needs to work on before he gets involved in a relationship, so not knowing how to explain that to my daughter, he just stopped talking to her.After the fact, he felt terrible at having lost a friend, but didn't know how to explain himself and what he was dealing with, so he felt like he kind of painted himself into a corner.I could tell that my daughter felt much better knowing that it wasn't a physical defect of hers, or anything that she said or did, it was just the boy trying to do the responsible thing.I told her that it's okay to open the friendship door and to be there for him as a friend, and now they are talking again. Knowing these details that she didn't know before has led to some interesting discussions about depression (which runs in our family) and about ways that people deal with depression (both good and bad).I have to say that I am really impressed by the maturity displayed by all 3 of these kids. I'm proud of my daughter for being able to see past herself and to offer support to a friend without getting dragged through the emotional dirt herself. She's a lot more mature and grounded than I was at her age. I'm very impressed at the other girl's sincerity and willingness to put her personal feelings aside to help build a bridge between friends, and I'm equally impressed that a 15yo boy is taking the advice of his therapist to heart to make some positive changes in his life.You were all so supportive and full of great advice, I thought that you might also appreciate the update with additional information. :) via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2ged9mv
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