Divorce on kids

My husband and I have been together almost 16 years, married for 10 years. We have one child, a toddler.My husband has anxiety and ADHD, diagnosed by a psychiatrist, that he use to see until we lost our health insurance over a year ago. He is also a drug addict in that when he isn't under a doctor's care, he will seek out medication illegally and abuse it. He also smokes pot and it's illegal in our state.My husband's current job is extremely stressful and a toxic environment. It is leading him to abuse drugs again. On a number of occasions I've woken up in the morning and found pills (or crushed up pills) and pot laying on his office desk where our child could reach them. This concerns me on a number of levels.Now that we have health insurance again, my husband is in the process of getting services set up with a psychiatrist and counselor again. And by that I mean has been sitting on the phone number for a number of weeks and has yet to schedule an appointment.The marriage is extremely strained. On an almost daily basis we have "discussions" in front of our child. My husband is overwhelmed with work and I'm overwhelmed with the stress of a new job, our child, running the household, bills, being the primary bread winner, moving and some health concerns of my own. We don't talk.I don't like environment we have created for our child. It's not healthy and the risk my husband puts at us with his illegal use and leaving the drugs out scares me. I've tried talking to him and he gets defensive and blames everything but himself.I've reached out to divorce lawyers to get a consolation, but going down the path of divorce scares me. My child will go between two homes, not really having a home. How will I protect her from her dad? Is it better that I stay and try to work it out even though I've been through my husbands active addiction 2 times already and now that we are nearing 40's, I'm just like get your shit together and stop fucking up. I hate that I can't rely on him. I hate that he abuses drugs and puts me and our child at risk. The pain of not seeing my child everyday is overwhelming. But is this the right move? If you're divorced, how did it impact your kids? And going between two homes? Should I try to work it out, but at what point do I stop trying? A friend I confided in told me to do everything in my power to work it out with my husband, that divorce is hard on kids. But I'm just so sick and tired of being sick and tired. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2fcxXum