I need some solid sleep advice. My son is 4 and keeps waking up all night long and won’t go back to sleep without me.Here’s some background into this mess. My son has never slept well. He had a rough start with colic, then severe illness induced asthma. We’ve been in and out of ER/hospitals for years and have finally gotten it under control with the right combo of meds (fingers crossed). This was 99% of the reason why cosleeping worked for so long. I needed to be there to listen to his breathing, administer meds, and that usually meant taking him to the ER fairly quickly. When he was 2, my (now) ex and I divorced and my son had a rough time adjusting which led to more reassuring and co-sleeping. I now have an amazing and supportive bf and my son and bf are very bonded. We’ve been living together almost a year. We moved 2 months ago across town and he loves his new house and bedroom. We spent time making it just what he wanted. He started preschool (which he absolutely loves) 2 weeks ago. His teacher says he’s doing great at school too. He’s happy and fairly easy and very independent. Everything is going really well except for sleep.He used to have a floor bed that I could sleep on/tend to him if he had a asthma attack. The floor bed was great for awhile. He could sleep through the night without waking until 3/4am and he’d crawl into bed with us. I was ok with that because I was too tired to get up and get him back to bed. However as he’s gotten older, and more restless and kicking while he sleeps, I’ve realized that we can’t keep cosleeping. At the new place, he got a normal twin bed and he loves it.His routine is consistent: dinner, bath, pjs, 3 books and holds my hand until he falls asleep (usually by 7:30/8pm) He wakes up at 11 or midnight and many times after. At first when he wakes up, he’s very upset and said it was bad dreams and I always went in to reassure him but I fall asleep on his bed in the process and then I’m really sleeping badly.So everyone is exhausted. I suspect that the bad dreams are now gone because he’s resorting to just saying he can’t sleep and that he needs me and cries. I’ve talked to him, bribed him, snuggled him, gotten angry with him(out of sleep deprived desperation), tried the no cry sleep method, made his bed more cozy, deliberately paid more attention to him during the day, made sure he got lots of fresh air and exercise, used sticker charts...but nothing works. He wakes up over and over again. The last 3 nights I walked him back to his bed every time he wakes up and saying “good night sweetheart” each time. But he’s like a crying boomerang and I end up doing this 20+ times in a row to no end. I’ve given him kids melatonin but that doesn’t work. I tried locking my door and reminding him that we are all going to sleep but that was a disaster because he cried and begged endlessly. We ruled out cry-it-our due to his asthma. We also don’t want him sleeping on the floor in our room (both suggestions we were given from friends).It’s making us feel nuts and we need to have a plan to follow and get some sleep asap.Part of me wonders if I’m the problem or if he’s just adjusting to the move and preschool. Should I bring the floor bed back? Try a different approach? Any advice or resource recommendations is very appreciated! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/31zoAMK
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